I am soo freakin mad. Tell me if i'm wrong to be.

Background:
We have this 21 year old kid living with us. He pays rent $60/week for everything including food, and has a "rental contract". The contract and rent are primarily so he can use us as a rental reference. But the contract also allows us to kick him out at any time with 7 days notice for behavior because Ohio requires it if we want to kick him out. If he lives here for 30 days he becomes a resident and we would have to take him to court to boot him.

So tonight we had the cops knock on our door. Apparently kid was speeding in our small subdivision and one of the neighbors told him to slow down. He got mouthy with her, and yelled profanities. Another neighbor called cops. We've been here two years and not once had any problems.

Kid admitted to everything, including the speeding. Cops suggested he go over an apologize to keep the peace. He refused.

I went over and talked to neighbors, assured them it won't happen again.

Called kid's mom, she said she kicked him out for similar behavior towards her, so this isn't a one time thing.

He and my own son have been looking at apartments together, but friend doesn't have enough for security deposit yet. I've warned son not to pay it all, as he probably won't get his friend's share back.

My boys aren't angels. But i've never had the cops knock on my door before except for an accident. And any incident involving disrespect towards another person was immediately apologized for.

What's my next move?

talk to your son and him only...anything else will end badly.

The friend has 2 weeks to find a place period.. suggest to your son that he not get/share an apartment with a trouble maker...gl

 

Originally Posted by amymarie1967

My boys aren't angels. But i've never had the cops knock on my door before except for an accident.

my poor parents...

you have no idea how good you have it. This doesnt seem like that big of a deal to me but then again, me and my brothers, and sister even, were pretty bad.

KIds make mistakes but wtf kind of lowlife refuses to apologize even after he's caught?

I don't see what the kid has done wrong. Yes, he was rude...but your not this kids mother, he's an adult and can make his own decisions. If you wanna kick him out, its your house so do what you want.

 

Originally Posted by Mr. Blonde

You shoulda told the cops to go fuck themselves. And tell the kid next time he embarrasses you like that he's out. Then tell your neighbors to fuck off.

such an e-badass

I remember the post about this when you were looking for ground rules when he first was going to move in.

If he is starting to show disrepect towards your neighbors then it is only time before he feels comfortable enough with you and starts being disrepectful. Just like in any relationship once things start to bubble to the surface, then they seem to come very fast.

If you haven't sat him down and explained the way he should be acting in your house and in your neighborhood, i would. I would also give him a warning that you will not tolerate that shit.

Hi amymarie, I think that your insticts are correct to keep an eye on that conduct clause in your agreement from his past history, and conduct w/the popo ect...I also think that $60 a week is awful fkn cheap, and this kid has got it made imo, as I rly dont think that you can live ANYWHERE like that for that cheap so... I would def give him a warning, and def lt him know that its the last one.

The whole idea of the absurdly cheap rent was so that he could save up for a deposit on a real place.

I am ready to see what "empty nest syndrome" aka, have sex whenever and wherever I want, is like.

His mom kicked him out for mouthing her, not working, not going to school etc. He's 21 and went to school with my son. In Saginaw County, Michigan the unemployment rate is like 20%, so moving down here gave him more opportunities.

I have no problem giving the kid a chance.

Sit the two of them down and explain if they want to be in it together then theyre together in it. If one fucks up they both go down. Tell em the rules. Abide or GTFO

Meh, knew the "kids" would think it was no big deal.

And it isn't, until you buy a house and your neighbors suddenly hate you. The same neighbors you'll have live by for who knows how long.

 

Originally Posted by amymarie1967

His mom kicked him out for mouthing her, not working, not going to school etc. He's 21 and went to school with my son. In Saginaw County, Michigan the unemployment rate is like 20%, so moving down here gave him more opportunities.

I have no problem giving the kid a chance.

lol at first i thought that said for mounting her. no wonder amy moved him in! nah, you cant have that crap goin on with someone you are responsible for bringing into the hood. kick him out.

 

Originally Posted by amymarie1967

Meh, knew the "kids" would think it was no big deal.

And it isn't, until you buy a house and your neighbors suddenly hate you. The same neighbors you'll have live by for who knows how long.

so basically you only wanted people that might agree with you to respond?