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Breaking up and getting gifts back

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  1. dixiecrat88 dixiecrat88 is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:50pm)

    Lets say your girlfriend breaks up with you, do you expect do get recently purchased gifts back? For example Christmas gifts, and she breaks up with you around this time. I think the more expensive the gift, the longer period of time you have of getting your gifts back. If you bought her something worth $1000, you should get a 2 month grace period or something.

    Thoughts on this? What would you do? Girls, what is your opinion? For my example, lets say you are not the one initiating the break up.
  2. LeftyMark LeftyMark is online now Boss of Birds

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:51pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    It's a gift. You don't get or give anything back. You've got to be kidding me.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:52pm) in reply to LeftyMark

    <TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=6 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>Re(1): Breaking up and getting gifts back
    by LeftyMark on 1/11/2008 13:51 </TD><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD></TD><TD></TD></TR><TR><TD></TD><TD></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=2 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>It's a gift. You don't get or give anything back. You've got to be kidding me. </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>
  4. JoeHead JoeHead is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:53pm) in reply to LeftyMark

    Let it go man..
  5. Mr. Blonde Mr. Blonde is offline Supreme Moderator

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:54pm) in reply to JoeHead

    if you were smart you'd have dumped her before xmas.
     
  6. CleeShay CleeShay is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:55pm) in reply to Mr. Blonde

    nothing you can do except tell her WP for holding on until after Christmas so she can milk you for a bit more
  7. godseyt godseyt is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:56pm) in reply to Mr. Blonde

    <TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=4 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=4 width="100%" bgColor=#ffffff border=0><TBODY><TR bgColor=#eeeedd><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=2 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD vAlign=top> </TD><TD>Re(3): Breaking up and getting gifts back
    by Mr. Blonde on 1/11/2008 13:54 </TD><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><TBODY><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 border=0><TBODY></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR><TR bgColor=#ffffff><TD colSpan=2><TABLE cellPadding=2 border=0 celspacing="0"><TBODY><TR><TD>if you were smart you'd have dumped her or caught her cheating on your ass before xmas. </TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>FYP
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 1:57pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    i think you're just SOL, sorry. i wouldn't expect someone to give me something back that i gave them (i broke up with someone quite soon after buying them an Xbox. but it was a gift, i would never ask for it back).

    if they dump you and you ask for something back, you just look pathetic. it's like you are trying to either cling to something from the relationship or you are just trying to find some dumb way to get to them.

    and if you're the one initiating the break up, that's the douchiest thing ever, to ask for something back.

    "yeah, you know, i thought i liked you a month ago when i got you that necklace, but now i don't. so gtfo and give me the necklace back so that i can pawn it or give it to the next girl."
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:00pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    do you live together? just take that shit! yer sol
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:02pm) in reply to hyacinthgirl

    If we went out together would you buy me an Xbox 360?
  11. HK_MP5N HK_MP5N is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:06pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    Let it go man, just let it go.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:07pm) in reply to hyacinthgirl

    agreed....its a present. i kept mine

    lol i got the xbox, ex asked if i was leaving it, f no.
  13. dixiecrat88 dixiecrat88 is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:11pm) in reply to norcaljeff

    Its not about clinging to something. In this case it is a new laptop. Now I could use that laptop, and I am pissed that I spent that kind of money, and then all of a sudden its over. But I am not trying to cling or anything.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:13pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    Here's a quick fix: don't buy gifts.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:14pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    lol @ buying a laptop for a gf who i take it wasn't that serious of a relationship; how long did you guys date?
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:15pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    You're probably SOL...unless it's a RING...

    Rings have been ruled to be contractual agreements and once that agreement is broken you're allowed to get it back. No shit...heard it on the radio...some Dad wanted to sue former future son-in-law for his losses when he backed out of a 50k wedding a few days before the date...they said that him giving and her receiving the ring was a contractual agreement.

    GL regardless...I know my wife would pawn that shit if we ever split...
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:16pm) in reply to Camz

    Exactly what I was thinking. How long did you date and what was the reason for her breaking up with you?
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:20pm) in reply to godseyt

    First off, LOL at buying a "girlfriend" a gift that costs $1000.

    Second, agree with all above, should have "humped & dumped" her ass before XMas

    Edit: Bought one of my ex's a ring years back while we were dating, she breaks up with me and asks if I want the ring back. I just told her to throw it away or give it to someone. Didn't want to take a gift back that I originally gave the bitch....what am I gonna do with it?
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:30pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    She'd be a bitch for keeping it if she's the one that broke up with you. Pretty shitty move if she does that. If you broke up with her you're SOL and out a grand.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:32pm) in reply to El Burro

    agreed. giving stolen presents is like playing with the house's money.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:37pm) in reply to Randinho

    dude regardless of who dumped who its a fucking gift you indian giver *edit* potentially racist/politically incorrect comment above.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:37pm) in reply to Randinho

    You made bad decisions. Move on.
    Sounds like an inexpensive life lesson to me.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:38pm) in reply to JKamikazeKid

    Um, lets see....sell it? Or how about regift that shit to your next woman? :)
     
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:46pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    I tried to make my ex keep the SUV I bought her but she's not as dumb as I thought. She left it with me along with the 624.00 payment. I did take back the ring in anger and actually gave it to my kid brother for his girlfriend. Even out of anger at the time I took back the 40 or so Frankie B jeans (just because they're expensive)I bought her. I wanted her to have nothing that I gave her.

    Since we were together for so long I felt bad I owned everything and just shipped it to her. She still didn't take back the truck :/
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:48pm) in reply to LifeReader

    If she dumped him it is bad form for her not to at least offer to give it back. That is assuming "she doesn't love him anymore" or some equally lame excuse was given for the breakup. If she had those feelings, she should have dumped him before x-mas and should have felt guilty for accepting such an expensive gift.

    If she dumped him because she caught him drilling some other chick, then she should keep it.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 2:57pm) in reply to dixiecrat88

    who gives back a gift?

    the only returnable item, that i can think of, is an engagement ring if the wedding is called off...

    when i was like 15 i gave back my first so-called boyfriend a mixed tape he made me... not because it had any value but to make the point i didn't need any of his shit
     
  27. godseyt godseyt is offline

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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 3:03pm) in reply to BlufferChic

    So you would not feel the least bit guilt accepting a $1000 gift from someone you planned to dump in a week? This isn't a $50 gift card to Best Buy we are talking about.
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 3:10pm) in reply to BlufferChic

    Whats up with all these ppl thinking they should get stuff back? You gave it as a gift. Doesnt matter how big the gift.

    Never give big gifts till marriage except the engagement ring. Even then buy a cheap piece of shit and tell her. No Big ring till you get married. Then when your married say." We are married kiss off about a bigger ring."
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 3:12pm) in reply to godseyt

    if i intended to break up with someone i wouldn't just go through the motions during christmas, accept gifts, and then dump them... but someone who does this clearly has zero intention of returning a gift

    in all honesty, if you GIVE someone something, regardless of your tenuous relationship, then you should be prepared to NOT receive it back... it was a gift, a gift is something you bestow on someone - his bad for not giving it to a more quality person
     
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    Jan 11th, 2008 (1/11/2008 3:13pm) in reply to sandler1860

    Nah...telling her to throw it away was a good way of saying Fuck you (since she dumped me). That was so much more gratifying than getting a couple hundred back.
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