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Childhood best friend died last night....

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  1. whitealroker whitealroker is offline looking for action in Vegas...

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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 4:46pm)

    very sad, he was only 39 years old. his sister called me this morning. I am just not emotional when it comes to things like this and never know what to say and now felt like I came off as a total asshole to her. sigh.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 4:50pm) in reply to whitealroker

    just calll back crying like a baby say your sorry and just to shocked to talk.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 4:52pm) in reply to perma_tilt

    I was at harrahs chester today and on my way out I was soooo tempted to buy a $20 scratch off, and it made me think of you, but I did not buy one.
    Edited By: sean614 Dec 21st, 2011 at 04:52 PM
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:00pm) in reply to sean614

    sorry to hear war
  5. Glo4m Glo4m is offline Confess to me

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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:00pm) in reply to AMARTIN1181

    rip
  6. PoWdA PoWdA is offline Waco nuthugger

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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:02pm) in reply to Glo4m

    This thread makes me feel like a dick for not going to my childhood best friends poker game last night and planning on not going to his game tonight.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:05pm) in reply to PoWdA

    That's rough. Losing friends is as bad if not worse than losing family.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:07pm) in reply to TheSteve

    im sorry WAR.....in a rough time like this..look at your health and please take care of it.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:08pm) in reply to Sandman_Good

    Tell his sister that you're "there for her" I think this is a great in for you with her

    Seriously though, sorry to hear RIP
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:19pm) in reply to coolhandkev

     
    Originally Posted by coolhandkev View Post

    Tell his sister that you're "there for her" I think this is a great in for you with her

    Seriously though, sorry to hear RIP

    I said that. I would rather be in with a bag full of razors then her though. I freaking saw her husband yesterday and he didn't say shit.
    She called me about a month ago and said he was dying and I should go see him(he lives in san diego) and I was like maybe in the spring. He had a inoperable brain tumor but my understanding was he had some time life.

    Somebody mentioned my health(sandman), my blood pressure is way down thanks to medicine so theres that.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:24pm) in reply to whitealroker

    not to sound mean but you come into a decent amount of money recently and you take care of some bills and such but you would rather go to AC then go see your childhood best friend who you know is dying?
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:33pm) in reply to nasabuzi

     
    Originally Posted by nasabuzi View Post

    not to sound mean but you come into a decent amount of money recently and you take care of some bills and such but you would rather go to AC then go see your childhood best friend who you know is dying?

    trip to AC was overnight on the train my two days off of work and required no planning. Trip from philly- san diego isn't something you can just do. I thought about it and was considering it but she literally called me like two weeks ago and when I said I might be able to go in a few months she is like GOOD you really should. He had a million friends, he was married. Me not showing up to see him would have been the least of his worries.

    When I die it will be sister....sister....nephew(maybe dad/mom/grandmom if its soon). thats it. I have no friends that aren't internet friends now that will be like...oh let me stop my life and go to philly to see war. I'm not sad by this. I have chosen the life I live and thats that. I'm a hermit and when dad goes i'll be homeless hermit.
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  13. Glo4m Glo4m is offline Confess to me

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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:38pm) in reply to nasabuzi

     
    Originally Posted by nasabuzi View Post

    not to sound mean but you come into a decent amount of money recently and you take care of some bills and such but you would rather go to AC then go see your childhood best friend who you know is dying?

    dude he gave a bunch of that money to family that needed it, so leave him alone, war takes a lot of heat in OT and its fair game in other threads but his friend just died so lay off ffs
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 5:41pm) in reply to Glo4m

    Good to hear WAR...what BP meds are ya taking? I used to take a lot before my heart op.

    take care bud.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 6:15pm) in reply to Glo4m

    Sorry WAR, RIP to your friend.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 6:34pm) in reply to Mr323

     
    Originally Posted by Mr323 View Post

    Sorry WAR, RIP to your friend.

    this, even more painful to the family that it had to happen around holiday time
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 6:46pm) in reply to DBo Fo Sho

    Sorry to hear WAR.

    You'd be proud of me today

    I bought 12 5$ scratch offs, 24 2$ scratch offs and like 48 1$ ones. All for Christmas obv. WOOT
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 6:54pm) in reply to Da Donkey

    you're not far behind...
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 7:00pm) in reply to Bigk975j

    go back to lurking.


    Sorry to hear WAR. May your friend rest in peace.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 7:04pm) in reply to Stynsty71

    Sorry about your loss. =( RIP
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 7:22pm) in reply to BigEarn7

    sorry for your loss.
     
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 8:09pm) in reply to killingbird

    Very sorry to hear, WAR. RIP.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 8:17pm) in reply to ECUgirl

    Why would you post personal shit...

    I lost 4 friends and 3 family members in the last 3 years don't see me posting for sympathy....

    rip tho,
    Edited By: SmokeyCasinos Dec 21st, 2011 at 08:17 PM
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 9:13pm) in reply to SmokeyCasinos

     
    Originally Posted by SmokeyCasinos View Post

    Why would you post personal shit...

    I lost 4 friends and 3 family members in the last 3 years don't see me posting for sympathy....

    rip tho,


    WTF??! Let's see: This "Tourney" dude, never seen in OT- barley 100 posts, posts some "My life is meaningless. I'm 23 and worthless" fucking bullshit and gets FIVE fucking pages of advice, condolences and hand-holding. WAR, OTOH, who people actually know...who posts the good, the bad and everything in between , posts that his childhood best friend dies and people jump on the hate wagon? Reallly?

    Fuck off OT
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 9:20pm) in reply to michlad

     
    Originally Posted by michlad View Post

    WTF??! Let's see: This "Tourney" dude, never seen in OT- barley 100 posts, posts some "My life is meaningless. I'm 23 and worthless" fucking bullshit and gets FIVE fucking pages of advice, condolences and hand-holding. WAR, OTOH, who people actually know...who posts the good, the bad and everything in between , posts that his childhood best friend dies and people jump on the hate wagon? Reallly?

    Fuck off OT

    agree^
    sorry to hear about this war
    fuck u smokeycasino, stick to photoshops your life is meaningless, thats all u got going for u
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 9:24pm) in reply to whitealroker

    RIP, in time just remember the good times.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 9:33pm) in reply to michlad

     
    Originally Posted by michlad View Post

    people jump on the hate wagon? ......

    Fuck off OT

    Wait wut? One person in over 20+ replies says something negative to WAR and so you give a big FU to all of OT.....

    Edit: ok 2 ppl
    Edited By: kdunlapmo Dec 21st, 2011 at 09:34 PM
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 9:53pm) in reply to kdunlapmo

    ugh, sorry man
     
  29. Milo Milo is offline

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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 10:20pm) in reply to orgnalsooners

    As stated previous, WAR takes a lot of shit on this Forum, but he does NOT deserve that here. Save it for anonther time.

    WAR you do not know me and vice versa. Nonetheless, you have my condolences, as I know what you are going through . . . both from the sadness POV, as well as the guilt side of things. The best thing that you can do to relieve BOTH is to call your late friends sister a few times over the next few weeks/months to check in with her and see how she is holding up. It'll be good for both of you to talk, reminisce, etc. Eventually, you will discover her mood will be brighter when you call, and that can be your cue to slowly lengthen the time between calls. Also, send her a card in the next few days with a personal note remembering your friend in better days. She will appreciate that. Send one to the family in general, too. It will help you with your grief, too. Good luck, man.
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    Dec 21st, 2011 (12/21/2011 10:27pm) in reply to SmokeyCasinos

     
    Originally Posted by SmokeyCasinos View Post

    Why would you post personal shit...

    I lost 4 friends and 3 family members in the last 3 years don't see me posting for sympathy....

    rip tho,

    I love ya brown hole but its about support not sympathy. Everybody heals differently and if this helps( which it probably doesnt) who cares?
     
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