So I normally don't post about this type of stuff but it's been a big part of my life lately so Im gonna get some opinions from randoms.

Basically a friend of mine dated this girl almost 4 years ago for a few months and now me and her have been hangin out alot. I havent hit it yet, but we got just about as close as one can get, she just got out of a long relationship with somebody else so she says shes not ready just yet... A few weeks ago it was a different friends b-day and a big group of us went out to the strip club and when he saw me and her sitting together and dancing (to the music in vip not on the pole) he got really fkn mad and started texting her all kinds of crazy shit like he still loves her and some disrespectful shit to me after we left, but then kinda apologized the next day when everyone told him what a drunk asshole he was being. She told me there is no chance of them getting back together though.

Anyways him and one of our other friends dont ever do shit they just sit on his back porch and play poker/watch tv/smoke weed/eat bars every night and hate/talk shit on people because they hate their lives so you can imagine Im on the top of that list these days. Im gonna see him tomorrow at softball and plan on talking to him about it in person just to clear the air and some of the tension. Ive heard through mutual friends that he thinks hes being disrespected and that Im being sneaky, but thats not true since he has known about the last few times we have gone out together since we all know so many people in the area and have alot of the same friends and Im not doing anything to hide that, eventhough me and her arent official or anything I think it will just be good to get a talk in for his sake.

Most of the people I have asked say that I havent done anything wrong and that its none of his business, hes just jealous etc etc so what do you guys think about the situation? Am I scumbag or is he just a hater? Anybody ever been in a similar spot and what should I say to him tomorrow? Im thinking Im just gonna say look you know we have been talking/seeing eachother and I didnt expect it to happen nor did I go looking for it, it just kinda happened and it's nothing personal against you, but nigga Im doin meee.

also no way Im posting pics of her outta respect so dont even bother...

he dated her 4 years ago and only for a few months?

tell him to go douche his vag.

 

Originally Posted by rocket5

A few months four years ago? Tell him to fuck off.

+1

yep 4 years ago maybe 8 months tops they dated, he was a top 10 friend I suppose but seriously he needs to move the fuck on. Glad to hear you guys are agreeing with me. So any ideas on what to say to him Im trying to have a game plan here cuz im not looking forward to the awkwardness too much.

 

Originally Posted by rocket5

I mean if the kid is like in your top 2 best friends it would be cool to give him a heads up prior but....

You're right it's just that it's only been a few weeks and I didnt want to jump the gun when we arent official and also the way he reacted after the strip club kinda detered me from having a convo with him. I mean the night of the strip club I hadnt even kissed her yet and we were just sitting together and dancing for a few mins so imagine...

 

Originally Posted by tmac456

he dated her 4 years ago and only for a few months?

tell him to go douche his vag.

Pffffffffffff...exactly. Hit it and send him the vid

you sound scared that he might beat your ass...just sayin

few months = 8 months? Jus saying....prolly two sides to this story imo.

 

Originally Posted by i2thunder

you sound scared that he might beat your ass...just sayin

Not at all actually it would almost be easier for me if we just fought and got it outta the way like that lol I really dont care that much Im just annoyed with all the drama he's causing. I used to care what people thought but Im finally fealizing to say fk em.

 

Originally Posted by SyphonSoul

the guy you're referring to sounds like a mental midget.

He actually is now that you mention it he dropped out in like 8th grade and did a 3 year stint for getn caught selling beans, you should see his spelling in his text messages it's really sad.

 

Originally Posted by DWare94

few months = 8 months? Jus saying....prolly two sides to this story imo.

Yeah I think it was close to 8 months, but really not much else to the story.

 

Originally Posted by watson5j

You say you aren't doing anything sneaky yet you haven't talked to him about it or give him a heads up...I think he has a slight right to be pissed since you haven't spoken with him about it yet and are kinda sneaky about the situation...but after you give him a heads up or whatnot, no way he should feel slighted in the least...it was years ago and he is obv a douche but you gotta make things right and then move on...

The thing is he already knows all there is to know it just hasnt come from my mouth so I dont really know what else he wants to hear and like I said I wouldve be alot more likely to talk to him if he didnt act the way he did the first night and talk shit to me via text.

not trying to just defend myself because I know its a tricky situation but then again he feels like he owns her because they were together years ago, I mean she even had a 2 year relationship with someone else in between.

 

Originally Posted by 36crazyfists

If one of my boys dated one of my exes that would pretty much be the end of the friendship.

Clearly, you don't give a shit about your boy or you would find your own vag imo.

this is what I was trying to say...obv they aren't really friends...more like acquaintances or a friend of friends...

I would never date one of my best friends' exes (especially if she broke up with him). Its probably not going to work out with this girl anyway, so why risk losing one of your best friends over her?

You have done anything wrong at all, I don't feel.

lol He's gonna kick your ass!

Especially when they talk like Yoda.