My aunt posted something on Facebook about the 1 yr anniversary of the death of her best friend. It made me realize that I don't have a best friend. I have tons of friends, bros, buddies, and plenty of close friends but noone I could call my BEST friend. I gotta tell you I think I am sad about it too.

I am talking about a person (not your spouse) that you talk to everyday, and see a few times a week. I am talking about the person you are a lock to hang out with and if you are going somewhere it's a foregone conclusion that they are going too. Your road dog.

I used to, for sure. Now I have a few people I may go hang out with but there isn't a single friend that I talk to everyday. Some of the problem is that I live 30 minutes away from most of my friends but 30 minutes really isn't that far. I don't even think about a single friend every day let alone see one.

I suspect that many of the younger OTers have one but I bet many of the older, married (especially with kids) OTers will realize they don't either.

Is the BEST friend a dying breed?

guys dont have best friends

I am lucky enough to have 5 people who I consider my best friends. I am 99.9% sure they feel the same about me.

Lets say your on the job... You're on a patrol, your texting your wife when you accidently run over and kill a local scumbag crackhead. Absolutely nobody saw you do it. Besides the OBV answer of "nobody", Which friend would you feel safe/safest telling? thats your "best" friend. Just because you dont see/talk to him everyday, doesnt change his title.

 

Originally Posted by molahay

I am lucky enough to have 5 people who I consider my best friends. I am 99.9% sure they feel the same about me.

I'm pretty much the same way. Every best friend I've ever had I've always remained in contact with and talk to on a daily/weekly basis. Three of my best friends I've been friends with since age 5-6.

Through thick and thin, even though Witten tries to drive us apart

 

Originally Posted by JPitt09

by your definition i'm not sure if i do have a best friend. but if someone were to ask me who my best friend was, i would snap-insta say my friend John. we've been friends since we were like 4 or 5. hung out all the time growing up, same sense of humor, same birthday even lol. but now we live 2 hrs apart and he's all settled down with a wife and a kid. we talk a couple times a week, still hang out at least ever month or two, go out and drink, catch a Royals game or whatever, but i guess i have a lot more regular old friends than once best friend now

I think you got it down.

 

Originally Posted by ess286

see I would think that seeing someone a couple times a year def disqualifies them as a best friend.

I don't think it should disqualify them. I'm in the 3-4 people I'd call best friends boat, but one of them moved to Scotland for a couple years for grad school (I live in San Francisco), no way I hang out with him every day, but I'd still consider him one of my best friends.

 

Originally Posted by goofy2485

Yes I do. Known him for quite some time through a mutual friend and found out we liked all the same shit. If he were a girl, he'd be my soul mate. No homo tho.

i think that kind of outweighs the "no homo" disclaimer goof....

I have two best friends... DaVols and my bf from elementary school.

I then have people who I consider close friends.

 

Originally Posted by JPitt09

i think that kind of outweighs the "no homo" disclaimer goof....

When you have a true bff you'll understand.

By your exact definition meaning talk every day and are always hanging out no. but I do have someone I consider my best friend above anyone else.

Me and fellow OT'er and cowboy homer Dware94 have been friend since like 6 years old and lived a few houses apart. have been roommates at one point, still lives like 10 minutes away.

I got to thinking about this a few weeks ago while watching "I Love You, Man". I think I'm in the same boat as you ess. I don't have anyone that I talk to on a regular basis (outside of work). For sure, my job (working shiftwork) and family take up most of my time.

Great, I'm depressed now

So appropriate tho.

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I have a ton of awesome life long friends, but I don't think I could pick a best friend. My family moved to my neighborhood when I was 4 years old, and within 2 years 6 of my best friends moved in nearby and we went through K-12 together, and I went to college with 3 of them. I've also have a number of great friends other then that group, I feel very blessed. However, I don't have one singular best friend.

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