I recently found out my wife was pregnant. We had been trying for over a year, including going to a fertility clinic. Yesterday, she wakes me up in tears. She thinks she is losing the baby. We run over to the Doctor's office, and they tell us its nothing to be concerned with. They say she most likely had a hematoma burst, which is common. They do a blood test and send us on our way.

Yesterday afternoon the Doctor leaves a voice mail for my wife about the blood test results. We knew this was bad, since he never calls with the results, he leaves it for a nurse. My wife calls back and can't get the Dr. (he's now in surgery) so she talks to the nurse. The nurse says that she is sorry, but we lost the baby. Obv last night was not a good night for us.

Well, my wife calls the doctor's office today, and a different nurse tells her that we may not have lost the baby. Then the doctor calls back and says there is up to a 30% chance that we still can have a normal pregnancy. We wont know until the results of a follow up blood test Friday.

WTF! Who tells a pregnant woman that she's lost her baby, unless they are 100% certain. And after telling us the baby is gone, how do they tell us there is still a chance, until they know for sure?

F Doctors

Cliff Notes:

1. Trouble getting pregnant
2. Wife gets pregnant
3. Wife loses baby
4. Maybe wife didn't lose baby
5. F doctors

omg thats terrible...

in my prayers that everything is ok.....

yeah f doctors?

really?

i mean, im sorry for your loss if you in fact did lose your baby, but it's not quite a situation where blame can be placed. Im nearly certain that even if the doc did think it was a bigger deal than a hematoma burst that he couldnt have done anything.

from what i read, the nurse, not the doctor, said that. and it seems, again from what i read, that he called to correct what his nurse said.

Im not trying to start anything. idk, i just think it's disrespectful to an amazing, honorable profession to say f doctors (in a serious situation such as this).

I have to totally disagree with Shelbster

Yes there are the private practice docs whom are really looking to ship people in and out and because they are private practice they are really looking for the almighty dollar.

But the majority of Doctors are still amazing and honorable people, those medical malpractice suites that you hear about, are a few cases in the millions of procedures that happen everyday. Statistically speaking they will happen, especially in poorly run hospitals/practices.

But to make a statement that paints all doctors in a bad light is reprehensible, and just wrong.

Please tell me that the peds-oncology doctor that works 80+ hours a week (not including call) that faces cancer in our children every day and now can say that we have an over 80% safe treatment for most peds-oncology cases. Or medical groups like Medcins Sans Frontier (doctors without borders), of the CV open heart surgeons that save lives every day.

A buddy of mine had been having terrible headaches. At the time he was mid 30's with a wife and two girls around 8 and 10. They go to the general doctor to get referred and finally end up at a neuro surgeon. My friend had a tumor in the front part of his brain ( sorry I can't recall the location more specefically ). So after a series of tests they determine that they are going to operate. So he is meeting with the doctor on a Friday and disucussing how things would go etc. Well the doc says it isn't a huge surgery but of course any time you are operating on the brain it is a big deal. He said of course there is always a risk of fatality during surgery but he felt that my friend's odds of survival were excellent. So my friend and is wife have a sigh of relief. The doc then goes on to tell my friend that afterwards he should be able to lead a "realatively normal life." At this point the doctors pager goes off and he gets called away on an emergency. So now my friend is freaking... a realatively normal life... What the hell does that mean? They had tried to get back in touch with the doctor over the weekend but he was unavailable. So they were pretty torn up over teh weekend. On Monday they go back and his doctor isn't there. He does manage to speak to one of the other doctors who was familair with his case and asked that doctor about the future. This one tells him well he may have to take some medication for the rest of his life as there is a good chance some glands have been damaged but other than that inconvience there would be no ill effects. My buddy dropped his doctor and got the second surgeon to handle his operation. He has been fine since :). He still gets pissed off when he tells me that story though. I can't imagine what he and his wife were going through that weekend.

you have to also understand that it is our society that has made this monster known as modern medical practice. Everyone is always looking out for them selves. Pt's will sue over anything/nothing, just to try to make a quick buck. this causes doctors to have to pay ungodley amounts in malpractice insurance, which means they have to see more patients to make up the difference. Its not there fault, it is a vicious cycle that represents the worst of our american society.

Also, only doctors are supposed to give results. I am an ultrasound tech, not a doctor. Every hour of every day i tell patients i am not allowed to give results, the doctor has to. If i had a PENNY for every time a patient has asked me what i saw AFTER i told them i couldnt give results, i would be a millionare easy. so, im sure(assuming) you are guilty of this as well. Its natural to want to know right away what is going on. So when a nurse tells you the wrong thing, it a product patients begging for results and not wanting to wait.

I don't blame you for assuming we were begging for results, but its not the case. It's actually standard practice for a nurse to give us results at this office. My understanding of their system is that following any testing, the Doctor reviews the results and tells the nurse (either verbally or orally) what to relay to the patients. So what happens is, we go in for testing, then the nurse typically calls later that day to tell us the results. (they have a lab onsite)

In this case, the doctor left a voicemail for my wife. My wife returned the call and the nurse got on the phone to give her the results. All standard. We've never sought out results from anyone in the office.

Maybe in your office, only the doctor can give out results, but not in this practice.

I never said I didnt want your opinion. I posted this on a public forum. All I did was respectfully disagree with your opinion. Nothing wrong with that, is there?

im sorry, but to me it just seems that you are trying to find someone or something to blame to kinda of make you feel better or something. it's common. psychological whoha. but there's no one to blame here. so saying f doctors was simply uncalled for.

we know youre upset and we sympathize/empathize.

Also OP arguement that Doctors should not be put on a pedestal, but mentioned malpracice cases, where a doctor is held to a Higher standard (which is true imo), can not be both ways

Man i am so sorry to here that. God bless you and your wife and i hope everything works out for the good. I almost lost my son at birth man i cryed like a little girl for 3 days thank god everything turned out good. People who don't have kid's or have tryed to will never truly understand what you and your wife are going throw. I never truly new love intill i had my son and i hope you get to experance the same

i agree doctors are morons and with their education should NEVER make mistakes...EVER, they are barely human and shouldnt be treated as such.....

but it sounds like the nurse said this and NOT the doctor

in no way am i saying doctors are not a bunch of fucktards, but as is practice....i kinda have to blame the nurse here, unless he is the one who said, 'you lost the baby'

and now for honesty cause you might not get sarcasm.....if i want to make money i will go to law school after med school, if i continue this path and practice medicine, it is to do good.....considering the cost of school doctors dont make all that much fucking money dude

i do absolutely feel for you and your wife though and wish you the best