I spoke with my mother last night, and almost lost my mind when she told me what happened last weekend.

Background:

My brother has a live in GF, and they have a 7 month old daughter together. He got her prego 3 months after meeting her, so they have been together for close to 2 years. I met her several times, and can't say I liked her at all. As a matter of fact, I told him he was crazy for dating her and informed him to leave the bitch after the second time I met her. Next thing I knew, she was prego...GG bro.

My brother works at a max security prison in Florida, and makes ok money but nothing worth bragging about. His lazy ass GF won't get a job, and he's had a hard time keeping his head above water. They abuse my parents' hospitality, and have borrowed an outrageous amount of money in the last year and a half. Lately my brother has been staying with my parents because it's closer than the apartment he moved into 6 months ago (from my parent's house no less), and it saves him gas money during the week. It got so bad that he and his GF were at my parents for almost 2 weeks str8 not long ago. He's 23 years old, and she's 21.

My mother lost her job about 3 months ago, and is on unemployment. My father has a great business, and has had it for 22 years, but it's slow due to the economy and contractors not building as many houses. He owns a painting and wall papering business.

There's some history I won't get into, but let's say my mother and father got back together after a 3 year split... They have been back for 4 years now. They split when my bro was in H.S. and he ended up dropping out and became a drug addict. I came home from Germany on leave from the Army at the time, and enrolled him back in school thru the good graces of a guidance counselor I know. I was one of 'those' students that everybody on the faculty knew...blah blah. He drops out again after I go back to Germany. GG school. Then went to get his GED, and cleaned up after I came home the 2nd time and literally kicked the shit out of him for bringing drugs into my father's house...along with a convicted rapist. I got him the job at the prison through an old Army contact, and he's been able to keep it.

Fast forward:

Brother uses his daughter to get my parents to give him money. His GF uses my mom to go to the store because she knows my mother will foot the bill. Mom says she heard my bro talking to his GF about my mother, and he was defending my mother against whatever she was saying about her. Bro lied to her about what his GF was saying, and said she's just not affectionate and blah blah....

Last weekend mom's friend called (her husband recently died) and asked if she would go to lunch and to Target with her. She said sure. Bro's GF got mad because she asked my mother to go, and mom said she couldn't afford it, and that she was tired from the week.

On the way home from the afternoon, my bro calls mom on celly and says to be quiet when she gets home (mom's house obv) because his GF is putting the baby down. Mom gets home, and the dog barks. Baby wakes up, and GF comes storming out of the room. Mom's in the kitchen with her friend and asks her if the dog woke the baby up. She says "Yes, are you fucking stupid?"...a;lkgha;lghalkgha;lkgh

Mom's friend asks if she just called my mom stupid, and then says it's time for her to leave. When she's gone the GF starts screaming at my mother. Mom retaliates by saying she doesn't appreciate being disrespected in front of her friends, and being talked to that way. GF then proceeds to tell mom she doesn't give a shit about her family, and thinks her friends are more important because she went with her friend and not her. Accuses her of not caring about her grand daughter etc.

When mom starts to get upset, MY BROTHER jumps off the couch and says "Shut your fucking mouth you whore". ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I almost got online to get a plane ticket right then....anyhow, mom lunges at my brother and smacks him obv. GF grabs my mom and mom ends up on the ground. Mom tries to grab glasses and my brother kicks them...GG $500 glasses. She gets up, and GF says something else...not sure what, but mom grabs her and tries to choke her. MY BROTHER hit my mom...um, wtf am I supposed to say about this now? Obvious feelings here from me when I heard this.

Mom then tells them to get everything and get out. Leave, don't come back and that the gravy train is cut off. Dad was outside and comes in at the end, and breaks it up making sure bro and GF leave. Brother was accusing my mother of same things the GF said, and told her she didn't deserve respect because she's a whore who had 3 kids with 3 different fathers, and she left my dad after 15 years for somebody else...and she's only back for the money and security.

Questions/Statements:

Is it EVER acceptable for your significant other to attack your parents verbally...much less physically?

Can you even imagine your sibling doing this to their/your own mother?

I'm in Korea, and I'm SFpissed off it's not even funny. How would you react?
What would you do?

FAther's too old to do anything to my bro, but obv I'm not and he's got a severe ass kicking coming for laying his hands on our mother...when I get home in December.
If I were home when this happened, I'd probably be in jail (that sounds bad coming from a LE officer :( )

Cliff's notes: Read this shit, it's worth it.

FUCKkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

wow. that is not at all how you treat a parent

oh my...

absolutely not - to your first two questions

as for what i would do... i have no idea, as this is so far from anything that would happen in my family. your brother and his girl both need a severe talking to - wtf?!

sorry, i don't have much to offer in the way of advice other than your parents need to stand firm - no one deserves to be treated this way.

i can't imagine what you must be going through being so far away and powerless to help them. :(

plant some blow in brother/GF's car. call Po-lice.

tell Mom and Dad they have a new baby daughter to raise

YOUR BROTHER NEEDS A GOOT OL FASHIONED ASS WHOOPING.

I already told you this before though when he was doing other things....

u need to humiliate this guy for bullying your mother. That's sickening, such POS'aments........

no offense man, but they're both fucking losers. im worried about the child and think something should be done about it in the courts if they can't even afford to provide for the baby.

 

Originally Posted by BPV3

"I never met her several times, and can't say I liked her at all."

fixed IMO. My mind was going in several directions when I started writing this post.

Seriously what city does this fucktard live in? Someone from p5s needs to give him a house call.

sorry man, that is rough.

i make it a rule to never fuck with people who have family members (near or far) taught by the government how to kill people. morans who do not consider this before touching someones mom deserve to be stabbed and dropped into the biscane bay in a black bag.

i hope you can work it all out with minimal violence though, seriously. at least make any potential cuts in locations that can be written off to "i walked into a pole" or related things.

gl man, i would be raging pissed too. hopefully you are a better man than me.

My brother does not answer his phone when I call. It may be because when I use skype to call him, the number doesn't show up. It may also be because he does not want to hear what I have to say.

It may be better if I don't talk to him right now. He's probably going to be better off when I've had more time to think this through.

 

Originally Posted by OneM24

Goofy...sigh

That's along the lines of "I can yell at my parents (never will), but you can't". Meaning "I can beat the shit out of my brother, but YOU CAN'T."

missed this post, damn one, but obv that ure the lynchpin of the family and need to talk to your brother and tell him to act right around your parents at the minimum

The real victim here is the poor 7 month old baby. His life will be a blast Im sure. Please be the best uncle ever because your brother and his GF both sound like POS (no offense)

 

Originally Posted by LDM

plant some blow in brother/GF's car. call Po-lice.

tell Mom and Dad they have a new baby daughter to raise

That works

I'm going to think on what the best course of action is. I am positive my parents will not call the police, nor will they get a restraining order. If this were to happen, I'm almost sure my brother would lose his job as a Correctional Officer at the prison. They will not do that to him.

As for CPS, it's not completely out of the question. From what I understand, her family has a history of abuse towards children. If my parents truly cut my brother off, and force him to make it on his own, he'll either swim or drown. If he begins to drown, the living conditions will not be very good for my neice. However, I know my parents won't let that happen. They are too nice for that, and I know they won't call CPS themselves. They will just give him the money or help him.

I really hope this doesn't become a vicious cycle, because it very well could be just that. I will see what's what when I get home. For some reason, everybody in the family listens to me when I talk.