Jesus Christ, where are the fucking pics?

Been busy so i couldn't reply (obv thanksgiving)

 

Originally Posted by nw25th

Played the "hard to get" card, eh? You knew it would work. Asshole.

No. I just figured if she wanted to do anything than it would be her own decision with no influence from me.

 

Originally Posted by sXeffects

The ole wiener in the ex predicament.

lol seems common around here.

 

Originally Posted by TheWacoKidd

he said in the OP he still wants to be with her... he got to fuck her all night.

how do you hate on that?

Waco pretty much nailed it. I still wanted to be with her and still do care what she feels/thinks. But if she chooses she wants sexytime with me i feel there is a reason and who am i to turn that down.

 

Originally Posted by BigEarn7

I banged an ex a few times 3-4 years ago when she had a new guy and afterwards I always just felt like total shit because I wasn't truly over her.

That is the main problem. I know i'm not over her and she should have known that too. If i was over her then it would of been using her imo.

And nutbreaker for a female you actually do seem to have a good opinion/grasp of the situation but i'm not gonna tell her that because she wouldn't wanna hear it anyway.

 

Originally Posted by elizarocks

I think the moral of the story is: don't have sex with drunken exes. Or exes in general.


Time to just move on and remove her from your life, at least until you're over her.

The thing is we really didn't break up for not getting along, cheating, or any other extreme reason. i don't want to get into details but if one thing was different we would still be together.

like i said she came onto me and this has happened more than once. not gonna lie i have came onto her since the break up as well it's just now she is mad at me. she more than enjoyed it while it was happening.

I think your wrong here. He shouldn't have to back away because she can't control her feelings. Sooner or later she has to be true to herself and go after what she wants. He isn't using her, I think its the opposite tbh and I think that as long as he is ok that she is conflicted there is no reason not to still be friends with her, try not to sleep with her anymore tho.

I think that if he does drop her out of his life... then she will actually feel used. It will defo help her get over him tho, but I don't think that is what he wants.

Woman are pigs

 

Originally Posted by feedthemfish

The thing is we really didn't break up for not getting along, cheating, or any other extreme reason. i don't want to get into details but if one thing was different we would still be together.

like i said she came onto me and this has happened more than once. not gonna lie i have came onto her since the break up as well it's just now she is mad at me. she more than enjoyed it while it was happening.

If you are not over her yet, don't talk to her again until you are. You will only be hurting yourself by keeping her in your life until you are over her.

Pics of Ex or the sammich.

 

Originally Posted by feedthemfish

The thing is we really didn't break up for not getting along, cheating, or any other extreme reason. i don't want to get into details but if one thing was different we would still be together.

like i said she came onto me and this has happened more than once. not gonna lie i have came onto her since the break up as well it's just now she is mad at me. she more than enjoyed it while it was happening.

She fucked you again after u broke up, so it can't be that small

 

Originally Posted by elizarocks

Iis that one thing her boyfriend...?


You need to be out of the situation if that is who she is going to be with though... Respect her decision and stay away, unless she leaves him.
Then it also forces her to make a decision instead of feeling used. Tell her how you feel and that if she wants to keep seeing you, you want to be with her... otherwise she'll always feel used. There is no outside factor that can ever limit the ability to make that decision, it's hers.

Why should i respect her decision in that situation? if she no longer wanted to be w/ me than it should be an easy decision no matter what. it is not my responsibility to not try and make her decision easy. obv she still wants part of me or don't know what she wants in general, rejecting her just to "make her decision" easy is not up to me especially if i still feel for the girl.

i could see respecting the decision if we have only been friends but we were much more and she broke it off with me unreasonably.

 

Originally Posted by nutbreaker

I think your wrong here. He shouldn't have to back away because she can't control her feelings. Sooner or later she has to be true to herself and go after what she wants. He isn't using her, I think its the opposite tbh and I think that as long as he is ok that she is conflicted there is no reason not to still be friends with her, try not to sleep with her anymore tho.

I think that if he does drop her out of his life... then she will actually feel used. It will defo help her get over him tho, but I don't think that is what he wants.

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! exactly what i'm saying and sounds way better coming from a female. i am ok that she is conflicted cause i understand why she would be but that doesn't mean i no longer talk to her and if she comes on to me or i to her, it shouldn't be my responsibility to turn that down.

 

Originally Posted by BigEarn7

^ This x500.

If he keeps banging her and he isn't over her, he is going to feel terrible knowing she is spending her nights with another guy. This will eat at him, and when he has his night with her ever so often he is going to start to feel sick to his stomach when he see's her and know she is with someone else.

It is a terrible situation and it will only get worse. If he was over her and didn't give two shits it would be fine but that isn't the case at all.

Being the "side guy" to a girl you care about who is in a relationship with someone else is one of the worst things you can do to yourself because it will never end well. Even if they decide to be with you and get rid of the other guy 90% of the time they will just do the same thing to you.

this is probably it:( and i know it. i guess by sleeping with her i feel she is still wanting me. like i said i believe one/two things change our relationship dramatically but i do believe "big earn" is probably right.

 

Originally Posted by edwardt1988

She fucked you again after u broke up, so it can't be that small

lol that is not the problem. she has even said the sex is great when i ask her why she keeps fucking me then. idk. i'm no beast but i am a freak in the sheets.

 

Originally Posted by Glo4m

this just in: women can be extremely irrational

This really made me laugh.

 

Originally Posted by feedthemfish

any women perspectives out there that can give a reason why she would continue to contact me?

b/c you allow it. basically she's keeping you on the back burner. tell her to quit playing the mind games or gtfo. be prepared to stick to your guns if it is the latter tho. otherwise this bs will go on forever. gl.

 

Originally Posted by feedthemfish

this is probably true but i did use to mess up a lot in the beginning and she would forgive me and stick w/ me thru. i lack two qualities that she needs and i kinda knew it. (and nothing sexually lol) Am i burning myself if i cut all ties before i get my shit together? basically i keep in contact cause i'm thinking once i do get my life together she will be come back to me. I think the main reason i care for her so much is she took me at my worse and probably does deserve me at my best.

pretty sure she never really wanted to break up w/ me. she kind of had to. I think i'm on the back burner w/ her hoping that i can get it together soon. she was basically my everything cause she always took so much time to notice the smaller things. whenever i expected disappointment she shocked me and brought along something that showed so much.

aaaaaaaw, OP's in luv, el you vee.

we just didn't know.

 

Originally Posted by feedthemfish

this is probably true but i did use to mess up a lot in the beginning and she would forgive me and stick w/ me thru. i lack two qualities that she needs and i kinda knew it. (and nothing sexually lol) Am i burning myself if i cut all ties before i get my shit together? basically i keep in contact cause i'm thinking once i do get my life together she will be come back to me. I think the main reason i care for her so much is she took me at my worse and probably does deserve me at my best.

pretty sure she never really wanted to break up w/ me. she kind of had to. I think i'm on the back burner w/ her hoping that i can get it together soon. she was basically my everything cause she always took so much time to notice the smaller things. whenever i expected disappointment she shocked me and brought along something that showed so much.

it sounds as if you have been through both good and bad times together and she stuck with you, but for whatever reason, she has decided to move on and you need to do the same.

from the sounds of it, it is too painful for you to continue to keep contact with her at this time.

if it's meant to be, she will still be there after you get your shit together. don't do it for the wrong reasons tho. do it for yourself not her.

to thine own self be true. <3

 

Originally Posted by AMARTIN1181

Jesus Christ op keep that shot to yourself

 

Originally Posted by EyeKnows

aaaaaaaw, OP's in luv, el you vee.

we just didn't know.

LOL i thought that was obvious. not that i care. i expect made being fun of as well as good advice from OT.

 

Originally Posted by MissBecky

it sounds as if you have been through both good and bad times together and she stuck with you, but for whatever reason, she has decided to move on and you need to do the same.

from the sounds of it, it is too painful for you to continue to keep contact with her at this time.

if it's meant to be, she will still be there after you get your shit together. don't do it for the wrong reasons tho. do it for yourself not her.

to thine own self be true. <3

thank you becky. wish i could tell you more (as far as details) for better advice but hard to put trust in anybody in OT. I've seen plenty of innocent people destroyed on here lol. i still may PM you for advice, just not tonight. obv you don't have to respond to me lol

 

Originally Posted by Cortz

wheres the bloody pictures! Being friends with your ex can be a difficult situation mainly because one always wants more then the other. I simply wouldn't be able to tease myself emotionally/physically and be just friends with someone i had a serious relationship with. Best you went your separate ways, i ignore my ex's

pics not gonna happen. at least not at the moment. once again i've seen one too many people destroyed by posting pics in OT. If i did not care for her i would post them easily.

and i agree with your advice. i used to preach the same thing. used to split w/ exes and we'd basically never speak again. I fell hard for this one so it's a different story. I still answer the calls and have sexytime w/ her even tho i used to say i would never do those things.