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she has a small student loan she is paying, car payments/insurance, paying for her schooling, half of the rent, she works really hard all through the year, working 20-25hours during the schoolyear while studying architecture. She is constantly worrying about her finances because after all the payments she has per month, her salary pretty much just covers it. Any unexpected spending really puts a big stress on her.
I make decent $$ playing poker , and I have offered to give her a bit of money so that she has a cushion in her bank account ( i was suggesting 1-2k) so she doesnt need to stress out so much over it. Ive also harassed her many times to let me pay off her student loan, and she can pay me back when she wants (or not , i wouldnt care) without having to pay interest. Her 2-3K student loan can be easily paid off with the 2-3K in US$ i have sprawled out in my desk which is my leftover bankroll from vegas.
She keeps insisting she wants to be independant and doesnt want to stress the relationship with a power-dynamic that she owes me $$$.
I could care less about her paying me back any of the $$ i 'lend' her... it would make me soooo happy to help out her and give a portion of my poker winnings to a hard-working student!!!!!! She doesnt want any of my $$, but every month complains to me that she is tight on money, that she cant afford new bras because shes lost weight lately (mainly from her tits, FML), etc etc etc.
I try to pay for everything i can when we go out and whatever so it doesnt look like im straight giving her $$. It would make me soooo happy to give her like 3K so that she doesnt have to work this semester and she can be well rested and focused on school. She absolutely doesnt want it, but yet keep telling me how stressed she is that she might not have enough hours this semester to make ends meet.....
I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW, i shouldnt be complaining about having a GF that ISNT trying to get all my $$ but raelly we would be both much happier. She said she paid for alot of things for her last boyfriend while she was working fulltime and he was in school, and then they broke up and she felt used and she doesnt want me to feel like that... ugh.
IDEAS?
Like i win or lose her monthly salary every day... and something i bink 4-6months of her salary in 1day,,, i would GLADLY give her my 3.8K score from the 10R last night so she doesnt have to work for like 6months.... that 3.8k will bring her MUCH MORE EV then it will bring me, so to me it just seems like the obvious move to give it to her since I love her and i want her to be happy a. Everyone wins imo! But she wont have any of it -
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Robbin_Huud on PS tyvm
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Niceguy
I will find you.
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You are screwed, basically.
Edit** I say this becase she's going about her life under the assumption you won't be a part of it long-term, as she has thoughts of breaking up with you, but not wanting you to feel as you were used after. -
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LMAO..I was gonna say "spacing"??Originally Posted by fly44
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Joined: Apr 08Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:30pm) in reply to FouTight
One less string for her to cut when she leaves you for Tyrone, IMO
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Donkey Kong
it's on like me
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Joined: Dec 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:30pm) in reply to FouTight
get her pregnant
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Joined: Aug 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:32pm) in reply to FouTight
Dude, you got yourself a keeper here. As long as she isn't the overly independent immasculating feminista type, I think she is so right on. Money does change the dynamic. This girl sounds like the nuts.Originally Posted by FouTight
She keeps insisting she wants to be independant and doesnt want to stress the relationship with a power-dynamic that she owes me $$$.
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Joined: Jan 09Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:34pm) in reply to FouTight
Let me get this right, your girlfriend doesnt want your money? Damn bro you run goooooooooooooooooooood!
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Joined: Mar 09Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:34pm) in reply to Niceguy
good read.Originally Posted by Niceguy
You are screwed, basically.
Edit** I say this becase she's going about her life under the assumption you won't be a part of it long-term, as she has thoughts of breaking up with you, but not wanting you to feel as you were used after. -
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are you trying to sound like a douche?
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Glo4m
Confess to me
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You are nice for trying, but you should respect her wishes. If you love her, just make sure she knows she can come to you if she needs help with anything, financial or otherwise.
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Joined: Oct 06Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:41pm) in reply to Moonlight Graham
I agree with above to be honest....Originally Posted by patthecat35
good read.Originally Posted by Niceguy
You are screwed, basically.
Edit** I say this becase she's going about her life under the assumption you won't be a part of it long-term, as she has thoughts of breaking up with you, but not wanting you to feel as you were used after. -
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If you can't control her with money, try beating her.
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Joined: May 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:42pm) in reply to BigStack Husker
and you already offered her some $$$ and she declined... so you did your part.Originally Posted by BigStack Husker
Let me get this right, your girlfriend doesnt want your money? Damn bro you run goooooooooooooooooooood!
Just tell her the offer is always on the table and leave it at that. -
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Joined: Apr 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:44pm) in reply to FouTight
BRAG POST. I think I counted 19 different brags in the OP. Wtf Ideas do you want? She doesn't want your money. Accept that. She is much smarter than you clearly. Involving money in relationships is sooo -ev. Just drop it. She will come to you if she really needs it. Work on being less of a Dbag tho.
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wowswift
Fold to cash, skeet to win.
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Joined: May 05Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:44pm) in reply to FouTight
Well, since she lets you pay for most other things, it seems she just doesn't want some large amount of cash from you. Just take her shopping or buy her shit she needs. Those small girl items are expensive, and the smalls things would actually probably make a difference to her. So get her gift cets or take her shopping.
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i see the prob, how can u pimp em if they never owe you?? crack my friend, crack
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Joined: Jan 09Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:52pm) in reply to wowswift
Yup, do this. If you're set on helping her, just accompany her one day when she's out running errands or take her car in for an oil change. Don't ask questions. She's obviously being hard-headed.Originally Posted by wowswift
Just take her shopping or buy her shit she needs.
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Joined: Feb 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 2:56pm) in reply to TXGal141
Stephane, FYP and FML. I need to "bink" a rebuy so I can pay my own bills off. Just call where she has the student loan and tell them you want to write a check for the balance. If she complains, tell her you did it for yourself because you're less stressed when she's less stressed. Once again, FYP and FML.
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FouTight
international super spy
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Joined: Jan 06Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 3:01pm) in reply to BigStack Husker
I must point out that when i first start dating girls i dont offer to pay for their shit at first, so rigth then and there i narrow the field and get a lot of folds preflop from hands i dont want to play with anyways. I want them to want to be there for me, not because of a free meal. But , yes, I run good and this girl is the nuts and I plan on being with her for a long time to come, but it just pains me so much to see her stress about $$$ when she really doesnt have to (from my point of vue).Originally Posted by BigStack Husker
Let me get this right, your girlfriend doesnt want your money? Damn bro you run goooooooooooooooooooood!
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Joined: Nov 06Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 3:02pm) in reply to TXGal141
came here to post something like this but since she's busy with school/work etc run some of the errands for her, go shopping with one of her friends to see what she needs/likes and surprise her every so oftenOriginally Posted by TXGal141
Yup, do this. If you're set on helping her, just accompany her one day when she's out running errands or take her car in for an oil change. Don't ask questions. She's obviously being hard-headed. -
FouTight
international super spy
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Joined: Jan 06Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 3:04pm) in reply to BigEarn7
yea, ive thought about that possibility,and brought it up to her in one of our many discussions on the subject. she countered with '' i WANT to be with you for a long time and thats why i dont want to risk it over a couple thousand $$ ''Originally Posted by BigEarn7
I agree with above to be honest....
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Joined: Jul 08Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 3:05pm) in reply to resilient
you're complaining because your GF doesn't want you spending money on her? how is this bad again? i wish i was that lucky, FU OP.
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Joined: Apr 07Aug 26th, 2009 (8/26/2009 3:09pm) in reply to FouTight
Ok enough is enough, pics or GTFO. Secondly, what is the highest grade you have completed? 7th? there not their.. view not vue lolz and wtf does the bolded sentence mean? You don't pick their shit at first? wat?Originally Posted by FouTight
I must point out that when i first start dating girls i dont offer to pick for their shit at first. I want them to want to be their for me, not because of a free meal. But , yes, I run good and this girl is the nuts and I plan on being with her for a long time to come, but it just pains me so much to see her stress about $$$ when she really doesnt have to (from my point of vue).
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