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go to wake or no?

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  1. dippydough dippydough is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:34pm)

    a kid from high school that i was friendly with and played football w/ for 1 year died this week and the wake is tonight. he was more of an acquaintance, i may have ran into him 3 times since high school - almost 15 years ago. i dont know any of his surviving family. should me and my high school friends who also havent been in contact w/ him since high school go to his wake? thoughts?
     
  2. MrMojo728 MrMojo728 is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:39pm) in reply to dippydough

    No matter how little contact you've had with him since high school, it's obvious his existence left an impression on you and your other friends. It is never wrong to pay your respects to someone you were friendly with in the past.

    GOOD KARMA FTMFW!
  3. L0bstaM0bsta L0bstaM0bsta is offline OT Podcast Host

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:39pm) in reply to MrMojo728

    You go to a wake for the family not necessarily for the person who died. Think of how much his family would appreciate it to see that someone from such a small part of his life came to the wake...I'm sure it would make them feel like their son had a huge impact on other peoples' lives.
  4. shallowcal shallowcal is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:39pm) in reply to L0bstaM0bsta

    personal choice to be honest. i probably wouldnt go unless i knew one of the surviving family members.
  5. Rocky Rocky is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:42pm) in reply to shallowcal

    If you have to think about whether to go or not, you should just go.
     
  6. marinersheep marinersheep is offline This is stupid.

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:42pm) in reply to Rocky

    Just don't go to Duke.
     
  7. dippydough dippydough is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:46pm) in reply to Rocky

     
    Originally Posted by Rocky Of Poker View Post

    If you have to think about whether to go or not, you should just go.

    well thats the thing, i had no intentions of going only because i dont know any of his surviving family. a friend asked if we should go, i got confused, hence why i started the thread.
     
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  8. tamayo85 tamayo85 is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:49pm) in reply to L0bstaM0bsta

     
    Originally Posted by L0bstaM0bsta View Post

    Think of how much his family would appreciate it to see that someone from such a small part of his life came to the wake...I'm sure it would make them feel like their son had a huge impact on other peoples' lives.

    ^^
  9. Niceguy Niceguy is offline I will find you.

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:51pm) in reply to tamayo85

    Seeing bodies for no reason is -eV, skip it if you two weren't that close.
  10. Mr323 Mr323 is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 8:51pm) in reply to dippydough

    Sad to see a young life lost.

    1) You don't go and always wonder if you should have.

    2) You go, and as mentioned, you might spark a good feeling in the family. Might have the opportunity to see others you were school friends with etc.

    It is always confusing with what to do in these situations. Just look to your memories with him playing ball etc. You would have gone if he died then right? Then go now. Death is timeless, go celebrate the good memories.
  11. MilBestDrnkr MilBestDrnkr is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 9:09pm) in reply to Mr323



    i'd go.
  12. cizastro cizastro is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 9:18pm) in reply to MilBestDrnkr

    The moral thing to do is here is make your choice based off of the appetizer quality and selection.
  13. SluggerWV SluggerWV is offline A picture is worth a thousand words.

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 10:11pm) in reply to MrMojo728

     
    Originally Posted by MrMojo728 View Post

    No matter how little contact you've had with him since high school, it's obvious his existence left an impression on you and your other friends. It is never wrong to pay your respects to someone you were friendly with in the past.

    GOOD KARMA FTMFW!

    hard to improve on this

    If you knew any of the surviving family I would say it is definitely a no brainer but even given that, the wake is for the family To have someone show up because of how they felt about their loved one after this amount of time could very well mean a lot to them Take the time to do it

    I have found in life that the things we regret most are not the things we did, but those we failed to do.
  14. michlad michlad is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 11:10pm) in reply to SluggerWV

    In my experience, with families that have young(ish) kids die, if they simply wanted family or close friends there, they'd just have a private viewing. Odds are, they aren't gonna remember much of anything about the viewing/funeral itself(i.e.shock), esp.if it was an unexpected death. They'll more remember the fact that old friends of his came, lots of people came...stuff like that.
    Edited By: michlad Jun 24th, 2010 at 11:11 PM
    Reason: triple neg
  15. HK_MP5N HK_MP5N is offline

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    Jun 24th, 2010 (6/24/2010 11:21pm) in reply to MrMojo728

     
    Originally Posted by MrMojo728 View Post

    No matter how little contact you've had with him since high school, it's obvious his existence left an impression on you and your other friends. It is never wrong to pay your respects to someone you were friendly with in the past.

    GOOD KARMA FTMFW!

    Sums it up well, I'd go.
  16. userid363 userid363 is offline I want an undertitle

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    Jun 25th, 2010 (6/25/2010 12:56am) in reply to HK_MP5N

    good place to meet chicks. go
    Edited By: userid363 Jun 25th, 2010 at 12:57 AM
  17. ttk1149 ttk1149 is offline

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    Jun 25th, 2010 (6/25/2010 2:05am) in reply to userid363

    i'd definately go, lobsta summed it up well
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