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  1. kidrockin kidrockin is offline cro magnon

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:33pm)

    So while buzzed I told my daughter that if she got all A's she would get 250$. Well she said OK and never spoke another word of it. But, she secrectly was tryin her butt off to impress the old man and pulled 4-A's and a B+. Obv she was disappointed but shes a trooper and never whined a bit.

    What should I give her?
     
  2. saxman saxman is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:35pm) in reply to kidrockin

    give her a hundred now and offer the balance if she pulls all A's on the next term?
  3. stevel1017 stevel1017 is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:35pm) in reply to kidrockin

    $200
  4. Watcher Watcher is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:36pm) in reply to stevel1017

     
    Originally Posted by stevel1017 View Post

    $200

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  5. Lipton Lipton is offline never gets replies

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:37pm) in reply to Watcher

    $200, $50 per A

    Or a pat on the head and good try honey, maybe next time
  6. JJDude JJDude is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:37pm) in reply to stevel1017

    Def $200... teach her fractions during this "teachable moment".
     
  7. Thatislife Thatislife is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:37pm) in reply to JJDude

    Scha's #
  8. El Burro El Burro is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:38pm) in reply to Watcher

    A horseshoe and a hand grenade. "Close" counts with both of those.


    And $183.
    Edited By: El Burro Dec 25th, 2010 at 11:42 PM
    Reason: It's Christmas.
  9. Gazza84 Gazza84 is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:40pm) in reply to El Burro

    i would say no dollars for her..

    you cant just accept mediocrity...

    if she thinks fail is acceptable now it will only go down hill from her

    op HTFU

    /rant
  10. jaykell15 jaykell15 is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:40pm) in reply to Gazza84

    meh, i would give her the $250. Maybe I'm just soft, but she obviously tried her best for the straight A's, so she deserves it imo
    Edited By: jaykell15 Dec 25th, 2010 at 11:41 PM
  11. SpankyHamm SpankyHamm is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:42pm) in reply to jaykell15

    $100 is a safer answer. If next semester she gets 2 A's, 2 B's and a C - she'll expect $100 for the 2 A's if you give $50/A.
     
  12. Watcher Watcher is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:43pm) in reply to Gazza84

     
    Originally Posted by Gazza84 View Post

    i would say no dollars for her..

    you cant just accept mediocrity...

    if she thinks fail is acceptable now it will only go down hill from her

    op HTFU

    /rant

    Yeah uh, no
  13. saxman saxman is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:44pm) in reply to SpankyHamm

     
    Originally Posted by SpankyHamm View Post

    $100 is a safer answer. If next semester she gets 2 A's, 2 B's and a C - she'll expect $100 for the 2 A's if you give $50/A.

    thats basically what i was thinking - its not a reward for an A but a reward for completing a goal. Keeping $150 on the table for next semester keeps her motivated but also rewards her for hard work thus far.
  14. nastysmell nastysmell is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:45pm) in reply to saxman

    some parental advice would go a long way. tell her "when you bribe the teachers,make sure Math gets the biggest chunk of the total. you know what baby girl? here,take this. it's a .44 magnum.the most powerful handgun in the world. you look at mr. pocket protector and say " do you feel lucky punk?" and collect your cheese"
    Edited By: nastysmell Dec 25th, 2010 at 11:47 PM
    Reason: lol and as an aside: i got $3 for every A to spend on books. i was an straight A student until i dropped out after 9th grade
  15. BigEarn7 BigEarn7 is offline 2010 Plattsburgh Award Winner

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:45pm) in reply to nastysmell

    Claim you were under the influence of alcohol and the verbal contract is null and void.
  16. BigGunX BigGunX is offline Mr OT Party

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:53pm) in reply to BigEarn7

    I honestly wouldn't give her any cash. Close enough doesn't cut it.

    I would give her something else as a reward for hard work, but I wouldn't give her even a fraction of the money.
     
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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:54pm) in reply to saxman

     
    Originally Posted by saxman View Post

    give her a hundred now and offer the balance if she pulls all A's on the next term?

    hey sax, you always sound like a great and fair dad. I hope you've had a wonderful Christmas, man.
  18. FenwayKing FenwayKing is offline The Well: FenwayKing

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:56pm) in reply to cdmalgee

    $0. She didn't accomplish her goals. Life isn't about participation trophies or coming close.

    Offer the same target for next semester. I bet she'll do it.
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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:57pm) in reply to FenwayKing

    How old is she?
  20. jaykell15 jaykell15 is offline

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    Dec 25th, 2010 (12/25/2010 11:59pm) in reply to FenwayKing

     
    Originally Posted by FenwayKing View Post

    $0. She didn't accomplish her goals. Life isn't about participation trophies or coming close.

    Offer the same target for next semester. I bet she'll do it.

    usually I like your posts, but she was probably literally one or two multiple choice answers away from straight A's. So, that's pretty ridiculous imo.
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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:00am) in reply to cdmalgee

     
    Originally Posted by cdmalgee View Post

    hey sax, you always sound like a great and fair dad. I hope you've had a wonderful Christmas, man.

    thank you my friend. I hope you and the family had a great holiday as well.
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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:03am) in reply to jaykell15

     
    Originally Posted by jaykell15 View Post

    usually I like your posts, but she was probably literally one or two multiple choice answers away from straight A's. So, that's pretty ridiculous imo.

    How so?

    Some kids get straight A's with no incentive at all. Or rather they're berated for mediocrity for not achieving them.

    Giving cash for a failed goal is soft. It's not a real representation of the world. You succeed or fail, there is no in-between.
  23. FenwayKing FenwayKing is offline The Well: FenwayKing

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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:04am) in reply to jaykell15

     
    Originally Posted by jaykell15 View Post

    usually I like your posts, but she was probably literally one or two multiple choice answers away from straight A's. So, that's pretty ridiculous imo.

    But she didn't get straight A's. Like BGX said, give her something else, I dunno take her out for ice cream or something for working hard this semester (iirc, kidrockin's daughter is <12 years old), but there's no way I would give her a fraction of the $250.

    You can't see failure (obv a B+ isn't a failure literally, but it wasn't a success for her goal) as success. If you do that, you let yourself settle for second-best and mediocrity for your whole life. You should see failure as a teaching tool, something that will make you work even harder the next time out. It's not a success or "completing" her goal just because she was close. It was a great effort and something that you should be happy about, but it's something that you use as motivation to do even better and work even harder next time because you didn't achieve your goal. Until you actually succeed in your goal, why should you reap the benefits of it?
    Edited By: FenwayKing Dec 26th, 2010 at 12:06 AM
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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:12am) in reply to FenwayKing

    if she is in fact less than 12, I wouldn't give her money. High school/college, sure, but for the most part A's in grade school are easy with any effort at all
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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:15am) in reply to bdecker7649

    So what happens after he gives her nothing? Maybe she gets upset and just says the hell with it and goes back to previous form.

    The original purpose was to give her an incentive to improve her grades, and that's what happened. A partial compensation is definitely called for - but not a nearly full compensation. So she gets "something" and continues to try hard next semester.

    I think you need to set up a schedule for this:

    Straight A's - $250
    Any B's - reduced in half (4 A's and 1 B - $125, 3 A's and 2 B's - $62.50, etc.).
    Any C's - $0
     
  26. jaykell15 jaykell15 is offline

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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:23am) in reply to SpankyHamm

     
    Originally Posted by SpankyHamm View Post

    So what happens after he gives her nothing? Maybe she gets upset and just says the hell with it and goes back to previous form.

    The original purpose was to give her an incentive to improve her grades, and that's what happened. A partial compensation is definitely called for - but not a nearly full compensation. So she gets "something" and continues to try hard next semester.

    I think you need to set up a schedule for this:

    Straight A's - $250
    Any B's - reduced in half (4 A's and 1 B - $125, 3 A's and 2 B's - $62.50, etc.).
    Any C's - $0

    I change my answer to this, that's pretty solid
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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:41am) in reply to Thatislife

     
    Originally Posted by Thatislife View Post

    Scha's #

    no love?

    I'd buy something for her, value around $200. That's different than giving her x amount of $$. If she's normally a B student, though, I'd give her the $250
  28. scgolfer scgolfer is offline honey let's go

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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:43am) in reply to userid363

    Id take her to Quiznos. Oh nevermind.
     
  29. EyeKnows EyeKnows is offline

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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 12:58am) in reply to scgolfer

    no money but another reward is the correct answer.
  30. Glo4m Glo4m is offline Confess to me

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    Dec 26th, 2010 (12/26/2010 1:15am) in reply to EyeKnows

    some lotion and a basket
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