So lately my g/f (pics are on here somewhere; find 'em) and I have been having some issues. Most of you know some of the bigger issues and it just seems like things have been going sour lately. Well, at the moment we currently have an offer out on a house to try and get out from under our current situation. I'm pretty much using all of my own money (my personal savings + checking $) for the down payment & closing costs.

Fast forward to this past weekend. I decided to e-mail the real estate agent and told her that I wanted to cancel the offer. I decided that the smart thing for me to do is to buy a home with a different co-signer just in case things don't work out down the road with the g/f. She had been pretty much avoiding me all weekend, so I never told her about it. Last night, she was snooping on the computer and went into my personal e-mail and found the message I sent to the real estate agent regarding the cancellation of the offer. She then got super pissed at me for not saying anything to her about it and said it was an a-hole thing for me to do.

My argument was that I'm just looking out for myself because the money being used is mine and I didn't think it was smart to have both of us on there given the current state of the relationship. She said she was more offended that I wouldn't have told her first. I told her that I wanted to, but she hadn't really given me a chance to talk to her since she was avoiding me all weekend and I didn't want my first words to her to be about how I wanted to cancel the offer. I also argued that had she not been snooping around in my personal e-mail that she still would've heard it from me first. It's not like I left my e-mail open & up on the screen. I had several tabs so she had to go looking for it and even still she had to open the messages to even read it.

So......did I handle this poorly? Also, should I be upset about the snooping through the e-mail? I guess it's part my fault for having the e-mail tab still up there, but there were seriously like 5 tabs open within two different windows and I'm 95% sure the e-mail one wasn't even the one left on the screen.

Just wanted to hear some thoughts.

Sounds like you handled this perfectly.

lol women

send her a email saying,''i sory,should have emailed you too''.

You already realized this relationship is heading toward it's inevitable conclusion, so her avoiding you and then her sticking her fucking nose in your personal email is just destiny's way of letting you know it's probably time to cut the cord now.

Good luck withdrawing your offer on the house, I'm not sure you can do that without repercussions. Hopefully you made a super low-ball offer which the owners will not want to take, of if they accept, you have a real bargain to brag about to your next g/f.

Edit: This is obviously not a reply to Norcal's post, but hopefully OP understood that. lolz

Sick fade, well played.

dump her, its only going to go downhill from here

between catching her washing her vag and her snooping thru your email, doubt you should be with this person...

It looks like this has all worked out for the better.

Please never, ever buy a home, a car, or even a pet with a "girlfriend."

 

Originally Posted by Z-Fresh

Smart move getting her off the contract. Going in on a house together is 1000% more committed than an actual marriage.

I caught my girlfriend snooping in my email one time and was pissed. If you are being faithful/truthful to her then there shouldn't ever be a reason you would care she is going through my email. At least that's what my girlfriend told me and I couldn't come up with a good reply so I agreed. I changed my password and that just made her more pissed when she went snooping again cause she thought she couldn't trust me so I changed it back. I'm so whipped. If anyone sees my balls please PM me so I can get them back. Thanks.

Wow, this is just my opinion but there's no excuse for her to have the right to to go snooping through your e-mail. In my case I left myself signed in, but there's no way I'm giving my password out to anybody. Her reason is complete BS too. To me, it seems like she doesn't trust you if she has to constantly snoop in on you. I'd argue the complete opposite of what she's saying.

I don't think your out of line at all. It seems like you were legitly looking out for your own best interest, which you have to do. I totally understand your perspective of not wanting to bring that up as the first topic of conversation since you haven't been getting along the greatest the past few days and it was shitty she found out, but whatever. You did what you needed to do, imo. Also, you need to tell her that she shouldn't be reading your email... thats going a bit too far imo.

 

Originally Posted by cizastro

Wow, this is just my opinion but there's no excuse for her to have the right to to go snooping through your e-mail. In my case I left myself signed in, but there's no way I'm giving my password out to anybody. Her reason is complete BS too. To me, it seems like she doesn't trust you if she has to constantly snoop in on you. I'd argue the complete opposite of what she's saying.

Well, without going into detail she had a right not to trust me at the time. I would rather be with her and let her read my emails (which are basically just plans to get drunk with my friends after work and pictures of porn) and have her trust me than keep my uneventful emails private and not have her trust me. We live together so nothing in our lives are really private anyways. I completely understand why you wouldn't want to have your emails read but that's just how I play it.

Yeah it's definitely an A-hole move to read through other peoples private emails.

stick with Roulette IMO

Move on.

 

Originally Posted by vats12

mad respect waco but is this really a bad thing

you need to read the story that you missed... obv a gf who keeps her vag clean is not a problem, but a gf who comes home then is found in the closet with a washcloth on er vag is not a good sign...