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how do you tell your parents *edit: money involved*

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  1. giveemhell giveemhell is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:35pm)

    how do you tell your parents that you want to move out to play poker and enjoy life without being a corporate tool?

    background on this: mom and I don't get along. she's a nutjob religious person, and I'm on the opposite pole of that.

    Basically, I don't want to her hurt her feelings anymore by not living up to her psychotic expectations. It's just depressing as hell. I'm 22 years old, graduated from a great college, have marketable skills, want to just live my life. She's from the old country, and I think its just a matter of cultural, cross-generational gap. I just want to be able to call her and tell her I'm doing well every day and just be the end of that.

    Thanks OT. I have a feeling I'm not the only one here who feels like this.

    *edit* plus I owe her a considerable amount for school and stuff. Under the current arrangement of my paying her part of my take-home, I won't be able to move out until I'm at least 30.
  2. cizastro cizastro is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:36pm) in reply to giveemhell

    Tell her you got a job with VanDelay Industries and you'll need to relocate to work at this position.

    Then have fun playing poker and she can brag to her church friends at what a corporate fat-cat you are.
  3. TheWacoKidd TheWacoKidd is offline haters gonna hate

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:38pm) in reply to giveemhell

    you are 22... you don't have to tell them shit

    cut the cord dude
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  4. BigA524 BigA524 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:38pm) in reply to giveemhell

    Whats the problem here, you and mom dont get along so gtfo and live how you wanna. Plan it up and go go go.
  5. Brooklyn999 Brooklyn999 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:38pm) in reply to cizastro

    interpretive dance imo
  6. nastysmell nastysmell is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:47pm) in reply to BigA524

    perhaps if you post pics of said "mom" i might be of some assistance. i may be easy but i am not cheap.
  7. bmrobinson1986 bmrobinson1986 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:52pm) in reply to nastysmell

    You should pay someone to "whack" your mom, then take a to and play
  8. Ozzie Ozzie is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 6:52pm) in reply to giveemhell

    you could give her a copy of boiler room...
  9. userid363 userid363 is offline I want an undertitle

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 7:33pm) in reply to giveemhell

    I had the "under" at 15 on # posts b/f title change. Did I win?
  10. sol160 sol160 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 7:37pm) in reply to userid363

    if you owe her money, than pay her first.
  11. chknpotpie chknpotpie is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 8:10pm) in reply to giveemhell

    quit being a tool and moveout if you can afford it. If you still owe her money then obv dont' move out if you can afford it.

    And honestly, don't think your not being a corporate tool for playing poker. All you're doign is moving money around.

    Just lay out the facts: Your lazy and want the easy money. If you make good money playing poker (aka more than at a an actual job) then move out cause youd obv be able to afford it. If you dont and think you're hot shit for winning a little bit, then id go the "corporate tool" route.
  12. BadAllergies BadAllergies is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 8:15pm) in reply to chknpotpie

    yeah, very few people in this country work for a corporations. haha

    I guess being a poker player is the only non-tool occupation
  13. imhooks imhooks is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 8:28pm) in reply to BadAllergies

    Where is the steak?
  14. Pghfan987 Pghfan987 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 8:46pm) in reply to imhooks

    OP, I am pretty much in the same situation. My parents are very religious and don't know that I play poker. I haven't spoken with them in over two months. It's been very hard on me, but I know that I need to live my life according to my own standards and not theirs.

    (In other words, I don't have the solution, but I hope someone else can share some insight in this thread.)
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  15. AceRunner AceRunner is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 9:33pm) in reply to Pghfan987

    prove to them that you will be able to live off of poker money alone, parents are always firstly concerned with your well being, compared to the money owed to them.

    once they see you paying bills with poker money things will go easier with them
  16. CCLLAAYY CCLLAAYY is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 9:35pm) in reply to AceRunner

    favorite player: theviceroy

    where the fack is he?
  17. towman1 towman1 is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 9:35pm) in reply to AceRunner

    "Don't tell my mother I play poker for a living..... she thinks I'm a piano player in a whorehouse"
  18. giveemhell giveemhell is offline

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    Mar 13th, 2009 (3/13/2009 11:21pm) in reply to towman1

    Thanks guys. I'm not saying I'm a baller poker player or anything. But I wouldn't just mind having a decent job doing whatever and also playing poker so long as I can get my bills paid and shit. I was just looking for ways to break the news more gently (she's hella overprotective what can I say?)
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  19. goboro2 goboro2 is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 12:22am) in reply to giveemhell

    Grow some balls dude.
  20. TiltinShoes TiltinShoes is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 1:58am) in reply to goboro2

    Dude, you are 22. I am super close with my parents, but they understand that I am an adult now and am capable of making my own decisions. Yours should too.
  21. fly44 fly44 is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 2:18am) in reply to giveemhell

    What I told my parents was for right now I could get a job that I will not enjoy. Or I could play poker make as much as I would with a "real" job and actually enjoy what I am doing. And if I figure out some other thing that I will enjoy I can still do that.

    I am not sure about the money though, I would just pay her off now if you can.
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  22. -AG- -AG- is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 8:02am) in reply to giveemhell

    step 1: remove tittay from mouth

    step 2: get in car

    step 3: leave
  23. skreechamane skreechamane is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 11:30am) in reply to -AG-

     
    Originally Posted by -AG- View Post


    step 1: remove tittay from mouth

    good stuff. gooooood stuff.
  24. R_U_Nuts R_U_Nuts is offline

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    Mar 14th, 2009 (3/14/2009 11:35am) in reply to TheWacoKidd

     
    Originally Posted by TheWacoKidd View Post

    you are 22... you don't have to tell them shit

    cut the cord dude

    Not even close to good advice. It's your mom, you love her, she loves you etc... Obv. she helped you through school and you feel like you owe her. It's a tough spot but your going to have to come up with a plan that will allow you to be on your own and still be able to pay her back. She is prolly gonna be pissed at first but make sure you come by and visit her often and just remind her how much you love and appreciate her. It can be hard for parents to let go, you will find that out some day.
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