lol if she is taht dense you shouldnt be marrying her

 

Originally Posted by ggwscout

Im sure this is a standard disagreement between the couples and argued about it. Who paid? How much did you spend for your reception?

My fiancee and I just got in a tiff about the wedding planning, specifically the reception. Her parents are fairly well off financially, and my parents aren't. Her parents are very secretive about money matters, my parents routinely talk about financial hardships. Her parents have offered to pay for the wedding and haven't given a budget so it makes it tough to plan. I think they don't want to give an exact number because they are more concerned with us picking out what we want but also trust us not to spend foolishly, but that is just my opinion.

We just ran numbers and the 2 top choices that have rediculous views from 30th and 50th floors are 14-16k. The 3rd choice came in at 11k, but doesn't include some of the extras the other 2 do.

Our argument was basically, why is it so easy for you to spend my parents money but not your parents?

$25 and we had to wait until 5 people finished paying their parking tickets. Still feel like I got ripped off!

i paid for everything. cost next to shithole nothing. spent more on vacation than the wedding.

you should try reminding your wife that one day doesn't make a lifetime. i'd spend more on the marriage than the wedding.

i'm 99% sure when i get married it's gonna be outside, layed back, cheap, small, and i imagine her parents will pay... i can't even imagine asking someone to drop sixteen thousand dollars on a wedding, unless they were really really rich and made it clear they wanted that kinda thing

edit: jesus, after reading some of these replies... i'm gonna be sure and drown any new-born female children

I'm getting married on Aug 21st, 2010 and the entire wedding will run us around 40k.We have 400 guests, so that is why its that much.

As for who is paying......both my parents and her parents are helping us out a lot, because a lot of the guests are friends of there's.

i paid for everything

we went away to be married and bought a package in the Smokeys beautiful day beautiful bride fat groom

It cost about 30k.

Reception for like 300 at a country club near Portland was like 2/3rds of that. My Dad paid cash for the whole thing.

Edit: That doesn't include cost of honeymoon, which my Mom paid for. Her parents took care of alcohol at the wedding, and some little things. My parents are both well off doctors, and her family doesn't have much money.

It was nothing though as far as organizing the whole thing. Never a fight or raw word spoken of when financing the wedding. And no one cared at all that we were bucking custom at all with the groom's side financing the whole event.

It was an awesome day. Portland late summer is the absolute nuts for partying for two weeks.

And also, that cost was something we worked on too. Like saving a k or two on the rehearsal dinner by getting Giordano's stuffed crust pizzas flown in from Chicago rather than going to some expensive stakehouse or something. We managed costs where we could, but it is very easy to make it a very expensive event.

 

Originally Posted by ggwscout

Our argument was basically, why is it so easy for you to spend my parents money but not your parents?

just trying to clarify...im pretty sure this is her argument, and youre being cute saying "our" when you know damn well who's the problem, so the "my" = her parents, the "your" = your/op's parents?

Somewhere between 16-20k (wife knows the exact numbers). Her family paid for the hall, dress. Mine paid for the drinks and rehearsal dinner. We paid for everything else. Pretty tradional setup and it worked out fine.

or marry someone with rich parents? :)

 

Originally Posted by tsxxx04

ummmmm pluv ftw?!

jeez, i get excited when my boy stays awake on fridays lolz

FYP

ours was cheap because obv we didn't go all out for the wedding since it was planned in less than a month and we got married in city hall and had the reception at his parents house. i think their wedding gift to us was way more than what they spent. but it was a good time and don't think i'd like a "real" wedding anyways.

 

Originally Posted by Denty

just trying to clarify...im pretty sure this is her argument, and youre being cute saying "our" when you know damn well who's the problem, so the "my" = her parents, the "your" = your/op's parents?

Yes. She is upset since I have no problem "spending" her parents' money. We both like the venue.

My opinion is that it is their celebration also, and they will let us know when it becomes an uncomfortable amount. She feels guilty. I told her we could rent a VFW hall and have Arbys cater then.

16k for the place. that included the tables, chairs, linens and the entire grounds/place. her parents paid. i think the total for the wedding ended up around 75k or so. It was at a newport mansion, with a gorgeous ocean view. if i had to pay it wouldn't have been that extravagant, but it WAS a beautiful wedding.

 

Originally Posted by ggwscout

Im sure this is a standard disagreement between the couples and argued about it. Who paid? How much did you spend for your reception?

My fiancee and I just got in a tiff about the wedding planning, specifically the reception. Her parents are fairly well off financially, and my parents aren't. Her parents are very secretive about money matters, my parents routinely talk about financial hardships. Her parents have offered to pay for the wedding and haven't given a budget so it makes it tough to plan. I think they don't want to give an exact number because they are more concerned with us picking out what we want but also trust us not to spend foolishly, but that is just my opinion.

We just ran numbers and the 2 top choices that have rediculous views from 30th and 50th floors are 14-16k. The 3rd choice came in at 11k, but doesn't include some of the extras the other 2 do.

Our argument was basically, why is it so easy for you to spend my parents money but not your parents?

I'm sorry about your loss... GG life