After recently turning 25, I've been thinking about things and wanting to make some changes in my life. Now I'm a bit of degenerate, I like to have fun and live my life, but I realize I have to tone things down. I'm talking about all parameters of life, not just drinking/drugs/girls, etc. Anyway, after being a member of this site for 5 plus years, I know you guys aren't really the right people to be asking about this lol. But what the hell.

What are some adjustments you've made in the way you act/perceive/do things/behave, etc from your 20s, to mid 20s, to late 20s, to early 30s, and so forth.

lol at early/mid 20 somethings having midlife crises today

edit: ok, Tourney's thread was dredged up from a couple weeks ago

 

Originally Posted by Ozzie

have a kid...thatll fuck your shit right up

don't recommend this path, but take a wild guess at my major life event when I was 24/25?

ps. this is probably as good as a place as anywhere to pass along the basketball analogy. one kid will certainly fuck your shit right up. But it's a lot easier than a mom and dad ever know because at this point they are able to double team the baby down low in the box. When you add a second child, all the sudden you lose the double team and have to start playing man to man. Still feasible and some people can play lock down. but child 3+ requires a commitment to zone defense and apparently only syracuse knows how to do that without getting shitted on.

 

Originally Posted by LDM

don't recommend this path, but take a wild guess at my major life event when I was 24/25?

ps. this is probably as good as a place as anywhere to pass along the basketball analogy. one kid will certainly fuck your shit right up. But it's a lot easier than a mom and dad ever know because at this point they are able to double team the baby down low in the box. When you add a second child, all the sudden you lose the double team and have to start playing man to man. Still feasible and some people can play lock down. but child 3+ requires a commitment to zone defense and apparently only syracuse knows how to do that without getting shitted on.

Solid post and +1 for having a kid unexpectedly at that age range

 

Originally Posted by LDM

don't recommend this path, but take a wild guess at my major life event when I was 24/25?

ps. this is probably as good as a place as anywhere to pass along the basketball analogy. one kid will certainly fuck your shit right up. But it's a lot easier than a mom and dad ever know because at this point they are able to double team the baby down low in the box. When you add a second child, all the sudden you lose the double team and have to start playing man to man. Still feasible and some people can play lock down. but child 3+ requires a commitment to zone defense and apparently only syracuse knows how to do that without getting shitted on.

syracuse has gotten shit on and gone home early in many o tournaments playing against lesser talent cause of this zone.

a couple good shooters and a well coached team can give any zone fits

 

Originally Posted by TheWacoKidd

which is why you switch to man against teams that space the floor and move the ball well and can shoot, like Drew does.

not good ole jimbo tho....he plays zone against tteams with half tge talent half the size and half the speed....keeps them right in the game if a player or two gets hot.

I'm glad this thread was not about what I thought it was going to be.

I'm coming to a period in life now where a lot is changing for me and I am right about your age (turn 26 in March). I think it all comes down to just being a man. In college I wasn't really a man, I still acted like I was 22 the whole time just getting really fucked up on weekends, trying to bang everything and having pretty much 0 responsibility besides hockey and cramming for tests when need be. Now I need to get out there and get a full time job to support myself and more importantly give my life more meaning. To me landing one will be as rewarding as anything I have done thus far in life. With maturing comes life deleting people who hold you back. I have a lot of girls I still talk to try and bang and most of them are losers and aren't worth my time. They are negative and don't do anything with their lives, etc etc.

The way I see it, it all comes down to just doing what is best for you at this point in life. I won't be selfish and I will still be the best friend I can be to my good friends and try and go out and meet new people but it is time to get everything figured out and just disregard anyone that holds you back. You will find there are a lot of negative people out there, you don't want to be around these people especially now. They just want to complain how bad their lives suck and want people on board for their pity party. fuck that, those people suck.

moderation is overrated.

lol @ slowing down 'cause you turn 25, at least wait until 35 or 40 before you throw in the towel, fuck.

i turn 38 in 3 weeks. still havent moderated yet

25 is not the time to slow down. Unless you have been incredibly irresponsible and destructive, your view of yourself as a "degenerate" is probably a gross exaggeration. Work hard, have fun and take advantage of the freedom, experiences and access to neverbeenmarriedorcrappedoutakid poontang that your age and lack of responsibilities afford you (working a full-time job to support yourself isn't really a very significant responsibility; having to provide for a family is a significant responsibility).

If you work too hard at trying to act grown up because you think it's time, you're more likely to rob yourself of experiences and memories that you would have cherished later in life than you are to make yourself a better person. (imo)

i can no longer get shitfaced without feeling hungover. i refuse to be hungover, thus i drink less when i drink. thats about the only adjustment ive made

You need some discipline , get a training routine going on with a trainer or a friend who is super motivated as fuck, you are who your social circle is so don't expect to get on the right track while still hanging out with the social circle that drinks gambles and parties, etc etc.

Just let other motivated people influence you and you will probably see some of those positive changes you want in your life happen!

I like this gjallen1975 person. Solid posts :) You seem to have a good head on your shoulders.

I think the expression "everything in moderation" is actually pretty sound advice. It keeps you grounded and probably helps you live a productive, balanced life. I think the problem with most teens and early 20-somethings (and it's ok, it's just another developmental stage and serves it's purpose) is that they haven't really figured out that life is short and goes by way too quickly. Some of us always think we have another day, another year, another decade. If you don't get a handle on the things in life that are truly important, before you realize it, you wake up and you're 40 and haven't accomplished anything you wanted to and it sucks. I say this as a person who unfortunately had that mentality when I was younger and "I'm just gonna do what makes sense today", and I live with a lot of regrets. I wish I had used a little moderation and made wiser choices a lot sooner in the game. I think it's a great step that you've realized that you may need to make some changes, OP. But don't stop enjoying your life in the process. You only get one turn on this ride... GL! :)