This guy seemed pretty happy

It is such a shame that in about 13 months some one will post "Where did YourTimeIsUp go?"

Please please do not work for the post office and for the love of god no one sell this psycho a gun.

As for your orginal question, if you have to ask the question, well............

"Is it mainly a media created thing with "playas" being praised and movies glorifying sex"

LOL.... you say this is your original post then go on to say that it is the norm for a college kid to do the 3 B's. Drinking and Drugs is also a media hyped created thing as you put it. Tell me why you do these things and I'd bet your answer is either A. everyone does it, it is what you do for fun in college. or B. It feels good. Then my friend you have answered your own question about what the big deal on sex is. It feels good. You cant be a hypocrite by saying only reason people are all about sex is b/c of the media when it is also the reason you do the things you do.

Dear YTIU,

You are not happy. Please start another thread. This is not about your sex/no sex at all.

here maybe this will help im 18. sex is good, sex feels better, sex makes wonders, stress reliever..etc..

some girls are worth ur time, so u can bang..some are annoying, andu wont get anything out of it.

once u start hooking up with girls or having sex getting head, etc..ull see why u will need it more, and its like a games..just go out one weekend dress nice drink a little and meet some girls, it cant hurt, if u get a number think of it as a game...then try and slowly get laid..theres no reason at 18 u should not wann have sex..unless ur scared of the pussy

don't knock it till ya try it. And if ya find the right girls, it doesn't have to be work. Even if she is only a '5' as you say you could easily get, it doesn't mean you won't enjoy her company.

Find a chic ya like, and if you are what people would call a nerd, there are nerdy chics that would share the same interests. You don't hafta marry the gir; after the first date, hell, y adon't even have to date her long term. Just give it a shot and then say ya don't like it.

YTIU, this is completely independent of our earlier argument.

What you describe as a lack of understanding of why people have sex, and the belief that it is a product of Hollywood hype, is just your perception and expression from having ZERO sexual drive. That, I believe, is a combination of 2 things: (1) depression, and some degree of emotional trauma from your mother, and (2) the self medication through drinking and drugs. Don't get me wrong, I'm not judging you for wanting to do that, and I self-medicate plenty myself, but you should just be aware that it will compound emotional trauma and translate into physiological dysfunction. Not saying you can't get it up... rather just the lack of physical and emotional desire.

I've been there. I nearly died in a snowmobile accident in my early 20s where my chest was crushed by a 600-lb snowmobile. I found out 10 years later that I had post-traumatic stress disorder that had never been diagnosed. I eventually battled through the sexual impact, and had to have conditional therapy to dislodge the trauma from my mid-brain, similar to what many on-site people from 9/11 had to do.

The point of this is that emotional trauma can and does impact your sexual desire. Your mother has clearly impacted you with some level of emotional trauma, which you acknowledge. If you ever want to get out of it, you will have to spend a lot of hours with a psychotherapist, or with a psychologist who specializes in trauma rehab.

Only trying to help, because I understand first-hand some of the issues that are causing your situation.

i definltey know people who don't seem interested in sex or aren't interested in sex. it's certainly a small majority of the population but it's obvioulsy part of it. What i dont' understand, or i do understand and i guess it just baffles me, is your attitude about it and towards the topic itself and the people who are just trying to shed some light on the issue.. To assume that loving sex or being obsessed wtih sex is some kind of social construct (hollywood) is such a completley ridiculous and immature stance that i'd say it borderlines on sociopathic. Yeah you've seen shrinks and maybe you are smarter than they are. But the difference is they, for the most part i think have a clear perspective on the world.

I realize your'e 18 and that your going to look back at these ages and realize that most of the things that you think you have a grasp on now you really don't have a whole lot of clue about, other than poker. I'm talking about life, i think it's an archetypical situation throughout the history of time. To use the utterly cliched term, "we think we know but we have no idea." Eitherway, sex is undoubtedly one of the greatest, if not the greatest release in the universe. Is it a big deal, it's not a huge deal, and to some people it's not that great. But if you want to feel good; not just ok, but like you can't possibly imagine feeling better than it's a pretty big deal. Maybe you could relate it to taking down a big tourney. I'm not sure. You seem to be in a very weird spot in your head where i think you are having trouble relating to alot of things. I mean yeah people suck in a whole lot of ways and the world is fucked up blah blah blah, but if you open your eyes there's alot of cool shit going on and alot of interesting and nice things about it.

Anyway just thought i'd share a few cents.

Such a long thread, but I felt like posting my 2 cents: it seems to me you will be fine... Just give it time and you will find out the "big deal" over sex on your own... For the moment, don't even fret over it, cause since you say you don't know it, you are certainly not missing it, so just relax and it will come naturally. When you feel like doing it with a girl, you will CLEARLY know (maybe she will too) and then you will act accordingly upon it... For now, seems like your relationship with your mom won't even allow room for another girl to enter your life in a positive manner, and this "mom" thing seems more serious in solving and is prolly main reason for this complete ABOMINATION you have of girls. Once you resolve (create distance) from your mom, and digest all this hatred, maybe even let it go, you'll end up opening some space to meet a nice girl who shares same interests, looks cute in white pants, etc... it'll all happen. You'll find out the "big deal" with sex when you are ready and willing. And if you don't, nothing will have changed, and from your post you don't seem to be a "victim" crying out for help, so you'll be ok. I say to each his own, and live and let live - whatever makes you content... GL

LOL, k!!! ^^^ Where tho? Am in Rio... (obv playing hard to get - wink wink!)

you have way too much anger son.

i'm in las vegas. maybe you should shoot a movie here.

Just wanted to say yes, it is possible to live a happy sexless life.

Sex is a big deal to most people. Obviously some people don't find it to be a big deal like yourself, and that's fine. But hey, you only live once, so you may as well make the most of it. You're young and you have money. Flaunt it a little. Enjoy it while u can. Go out and have sex bro! You WILL like it.

As for your social life and all that mumbo, you seriously need to grow up and stop hating the world. It's a great place. Maybe you should expand your horizons and go out and travel a little. See the world. Maybe then you'll open your eyes and see all that u could potentially miss with the attitude you share. LIVE MAN! LIVE!

You're mom is right man, you need to get out and do stuff. Take care of your body, and be more open. As for the money, I'm sure she's only looking out for you! That's what parents do. Besides, if you're not out spending it, and enjoying life, then u don't even need the money at this time in your life. Also, u may think your mom's a bitch now, but you're 18, and when I was 18 I thought the same thing! Only when you grow up, you realize your folks will always be there for you and you actually become friends with them, as appose to just looking at them like parental-figures.

It's important to do these things in life. Human interaction is important! It makes it worth it. Why isn't sex worth your time? It doesn't sound like u do much with your time besides online poker. I don't wanna come off rude or anything. I'm just stating the obvious.

No offence, and I truely mean this, but you sound depressed beyond belief!