Long story short, A good friend of mine commited suicide a little while ago. It was all really strange, he seemed pretty normal, noone seen it coming at all etc.
At the funeral a couple of his friends cam in reaking of some very strong cronic, and had evidently just smoked up. They are pretty big pottys so were not laughing or tripping out, just had a session right before they cam to funeral and were acting like everyone else just quietly paying their respects. Only thing was that they really stunk of pot.

A girl I knew there ( ex gf of guy who died) got really pissed off and was complaining to me about how disrespectful and rude this was. She wanted to tell them to leave but I convinced her not too as I though this would just create a pretty big awkward drama.

Personally, I didnt think it was a big deal. The guy who died had smoked occasionally and dont think the guys meant to be disrespectful. Basically, they just got toasted before they went anywhere.

So wondering OTs opinion. Is this unacceptable social behavior? Would you give a rats ass if someone cam to your funeral after blazing a fat one?

Not a big deal. Funerals almost demand some sort of medication. No one blinks at taking xanax or popping 10mgs of valium. let em smoke if it makes the day easier. i have smoked before my share. she is just being a drama queen

The funeral is for the family and friends and you should be doing nothing that calls attention to yourself. If you gotta blaze, do it later.

Unless of course the funeral was later in the day, say after 4 PM.

I dont smoke, but all my friends/fam do.

I cant remember the last funeral i went to where everyone in the car with me didnt smoke on the way there.

When I die I'm gonna put in my will that to come to my funeral you must be high

edit: don't worry it will be catered

same as having a drink imo

I think this mostly depends on the family and how they would feel if they smelled it.....They may not mean to be disrespectful but it doesn't really matter if the family perceives it that way....you should pretty much do whatever you can to help the family cope with their loss without causing issues. If that means not smoking for a few hours then it shouldn't be a big deal. I'm sure the friends are grieving but it's probably not on the level of his family.

i say its just fine, the true test is did your friend who passed smoke, if he would tell you to pass the pipe his way then i think you owe that much to smoke for him. If he is against it hold off till the wake afterwards.

If the family thinks it's disrespectful, then it is. It doesn't matter what your opinion is.

 

Originally Posted by ntanygd760

i say its just fine, the true test is did your friend who passed smoke, if he would tell you to pass the pipe his way then i think you owe that much to smoke for him. If he is against it hold off till the wake afterwards.

WRONG. the friend is dead and gone, its not about what he would think. This is about his family and how THEY would perceive you showing up <STRIKE>reeking</STRIKE> intoxicated (or smashed for that matter). If you want to have a puff in his memory do it after the ceremony that is being put on by and partially for his family.

 

Originally Posted by MeJahAndOmaha

WRONG. the friend is dead and gone, its not about what he would think. This is about his family and how THEY would perceive you showing up reeking (or smashed for that matter). If you want to have a puff in his memory do it after the ceremony that is being put on by and partially for his family.

Who is a funeral for? The living or the dead?

im just wondering why you cant spell came

 

Originally Posted by Dyzalot

 

Originally Posted by Shaaarrrp

I don't understand how anyone could fail to see how this might offend A LOT of people. Are you serious?

Smells are only offensive if they bring tears to your eyes or cause you to choke. Otherwise, if you are offended by a smell then it is your fault for taking offense. Would she have reacted the same if they came in reeking of cigarette smoke or cheap cologne?

cigarettes and cheap cologne arent illegal

 

Originally Posted by brianyut

If the family thinks it's disrespectful, then it is. It doesn't matter what your opinion is.

So now we each get to define words to mean whatever we want it to mean? That's bullshit in my opinion. Showing up smelling like weed neither shows contempt nor discourtesy to the other people at the service. Not showing up would be disrespectful, regardless of how you smell. Therefore showing up smelling like weed shows respect.

 

Originally Posted by Dyzalot

 

Originally Posted by Shaaarrrp

I don't understand how anyone could fail to see how this might offend A LOT of people. Are you serious?

Smells are only offensive if they bring tears to your eyes or cause you to choke. Otherwise, if you are offended by a smell then it is your fault for taking offense. Would she have reacted the same if they came in reeking of cigarette smoke or cheap cologne?

Although you and I almost definitely agree on the absurdity of marijuana being illegal the fact remains that it is and that alone makes it completely different than cigarettes or cheap cologne. Maybe people shouldn't view them differently, but they do....and frankly, it doesnt matter what you or I think-it's what the family thinks. If the family didn't drink and was against alcohol, Id say it would be in awful taste to drown your sorrows with booze in front of them. Are people really too damn selfish to not indulge themselves for a few hours one in a while? Do you really think it's fair to the deceased/family when the congregation is focusing AT ALL on the smell in the air and not remembering who died? It's obvious the girl was focusing on it and I guarantee she wasn't the only one.