It's been noted that I run really bad with girls here. But about 2 weeks ago I thought I found someone really special. She was awesome. She messaged me in POF and we were IMing each other and we really hit it off I thought. We had a lot of things in common ie. we both don't drink or smoke and we both hate clubbing and we're both fairly intelligent, we both have similar music tastes and we both thought we were funny. So we IMed each other for a week and it was pretty flirty. Anyways she asked when we can meet and I said Friday and so we met last Friday. Now heading in I was kinda worried if I would find her attractive or not cuz her pictures left a little to be desired but she looked a lot better live so I was hooked. After dinner we just sat there talking for an hour and a half.

Here comes the complicated part. We ended the "date" early cuz she had to drive down to San Diego for her work on Saturday and I was pretty tired from the long day. We hugged each other good night (no kiss cuz she doesn't like PDAs). Next day I wake up around 10:30 am and see her online, I IM her if she's at work and she said no because her boss called and said she didn't have to go. Anyways we start talking about last night and then she dropped a bombshell. She wants to keep things casual because she MAY have to go to Japan for a job and if she gets the job she'll be gone for at least a year and a half. She said the interview is in October and if she gets it she leaves in December. I was really saddened by this news. I finally found someone and boom she drops this piece of news. She said she just found out literally a few days ago.

Sunday rolls around and we start IMing again and we talk about this job in Japan and she says it's really competitive and all. She said even if she doesn't get the job she's thinking of moving out of CA because she doesn't really like it here even though she's lived here practically her whole life. Basically I said, I really like you and I know you wanna keep things casual, so I'll continue to be myself until you are ready. She posted a smiley and said I know.

Now when we were getting to know each other she was the one IMing me because I was on playing poker when she got on. Now she's stopped doing that, although she was busy when I did IM her this week, but still our convos haven't been smooth as before IMO. I dunno maybe i'm imagining things but I kinda have a 6th sense about these things, but again it could be my imagination. I'm thinking she doesn't like me anymore? Anyways, how should I continue? I was planning to ask her out a movie tonight but am not sure if I should. What would you guys do?

OH AND NO PICSSSS!!!!! I LIKE HER TOO MUCH TO POST HER PICTURE ON THIS SITE!

Cliff notes:

I meet awesome girl on POF and we hit it off

We meet up and things went well.

She drops a bombshell saying she might be going out of the country for a year and a half and wants to keep things casual.

Convos lately haven't been going as smoothly.

FML I RUN BAD

WWYD?

Thanks all. <3 OT

Isn't POF all about casual sex???

dude how old r u?

go find someone else, its not like u have much time invested in this christ.

Um, dude, seriously?

You met on POF and basically fell in love. You think you're the first dude she met on POF? I'm not trying to be mean or anything here, but damn man, you don't meet and fall in love and go crazy over a chick like this...She's making it very very clear she wants you to back off. Just back off and log back in to POF.

"She posted a smiley and said I know"
- really? ooook.

POF is a great site because I travel all the time for work, but I don't expect to get married off it.

Move on. She's given you plenty of reasons to do so.

wtf is POF ?

 

Originally Posted by Faaantastic

 wtf is POF ?

 

Originally Posted by pauliewlnuts

plenty of fish (free dating site)

It's over Johnny....oh and ^^ding ding ding

 

Originally Posted by KingMonty

Firstly, what is POF and PDA?

I'm afraid it all looks rather obvious what has happened.

Something happened on your date which put her off quite badly. Look at the evidence:

She ends the date early because she has to go on a work trip the next day (a Saturday), that didn't happen. You didn't get that rejection so she moves onto plan B. I'm leaving the country for 18 months. That didn't work, you'll still be here waiting when she gets back. Panicking (because I doubt she thought it would get this far), she says she's leaving California anyway. Note she is leaving California, not going anywhere, just leaving.

I hate to do this, but you practically wrote this yourself.

Was thinking the exact same thing...(well without wondering what POF and PDA are)

 

Originally Posted by Echelon

NO Pics? then GTFO

 

Originally Posted by Skywalker18

so keep it casual, thats why she backed off, she thinks you're gonna keep pushing it. maybe ya can hit it before she leaves. At the very least it's good practice to just spend any time talking and interacting with females, which at least you're making an attempt to do these days. I feel dirty posting without pics.

Should I still ask her out to a movie or something?

 

Originally Posted by Defndrofangels

Should I still ask her out to a movie or something?

tell her u wanna "casually" put it in her poop chute :-p

In all seriousness tho, she thought u looked better in ur pics :-X

I'd suggest coming up with something different. Go to the Turf Club and bet like $5 a race on some horses and bullshit with her. Just throwing something out there quick but you get my point.

Maybe you got no game

edit: i was gonna feel bad sayin this but looking at the replies it has already been mentioned - STOP acting like a chick. if it can be sensed in on online post, women can 100% tell. man up, get laid, ez game