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  1. Duffy08 Duffy08 is offline

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:28pm)

    Older sister is getting married this next week and I think it's what you call a desitination wedding as most of the guests/most of our family has to travel far to go to it(it's in florida somewhere). It's got me wondering am I expected to get them a gift? and if so what is appropriate? I make decent $ for a kid my age and after the honeymoon I'd assume they will be broke as her fiance is going back to school.

    So should the gift kind of reflect what I make $ wise as my initial thought was to get them a 2nd honeymoon type vacation thing but I'm not sure how that would be perceived by everyone else there. Guess I don't really know what the norm is for a younger brother wedding wise outside of traveling there and being involved in the wedding(think I'm an usher).

    any gift ideas if the consensus is I should get one? I've only met the groom once I think but I know of him and his family as he used to live in my hometown growing up.

    thanks
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  2. Glo4m Glo4m is offline Confess to me

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:32pm) in reply to Duffy08

    Don't go overboard. This is why there are gift registries. If you are doing well financially get them one of the more expensive items on their registry list. The most important part to your sister I'm sure is you being there. Oh, and maybe work on an epic toast!
    Edited By: Glo4m Dec 11th, 2010 at 03:33 PM
  3. OneM24 OneM24 is offline beer pong champion

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:33pm) in reply to Duffy08

    You should definitely get them a gift. Look on their registry, and pick something you think would represent you well. If you don't know where their registry is, just ask them.
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:40pm) in reply to OneM24

    If I go off the registry I should prolly wait to buy the gift until I'm in Florida right?
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  5. OneM24 OneM24 is offline beer pong champion

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:50pm) in reply to Duffy08

    Yes. This way you don't have to travel with it. EZ game
  6. Lenny Lenny is online now lail henny!

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 3:55pm) in reply to OneM24

     
    Originally Posted by OneM24 View Post

    Yes. This way you don't have to travel with it. EZ game

    If it's a national chain and you see something specific you would like to give you could probably scan/mark it at home and then buy it in FL.
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 4:37pm) in reply to Lenny

    By header I was assuming it was about your wedding and my answer would have been don't do it.

    But now:

    Okay, well, uh... candlesticks always make a nice gift, and uh, maybe you could find out where she's registered and maybe a place-setting or maybe a silverware pattern. Okay, let's get two! Go get 'em.
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 5:03pm) in reply to chs3rd

    wait do they live in florida or thats just where the wedding is? if they dont live in florida, dont bring the physical gift to them, just send it to them afterwards so they dont have to haul it back to KS or wherever they live. definitely get them something off the registry, that is what its there for. aim for something on the upper tier if you can afford it. my sister got married last month and it was a really great time for my family, make sure you enjoy it dude
     
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 5:09pm) in reply to Goldenad

    I know in Canada giving cash is usually pretty customary. My wife and I were married a year ago September and it was easily 3/4 cash and 1/4 registry gifts. The general rule is "cover the cost of the plate" so ballpark gift was 100 - 150 a head. Typically we would just bring an envelope with money, if its family or someone close to us we generally bump it up a bit.
  10. R_U_Nuts R_U_Nuts is offline

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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 5:10pm) in reply to iansmithca

    F the registry. People want cash to help offset the cost of the wedding.
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 5:21pm) in reply to R_U_Nuts

    She's your sister. Talk to her about it, especially if you want to do something large or unusual. For instance, a vacation gift is great but you must be sure they will have the time to do it and there won't be extra costs that they can't afford.
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    Dec 11th, 2010 (12/11/2010 5:50pm) in reply to Goldenad

     
    Originally Posted by Goldenad View Post

    wait do they live in florida or thats just where the wedding is? if they dont live in florida, dont bring the physical gift to them, just send it to them afterwards so they dont have to haul it back to KS or wherever they live. definitely get them something off the registry, that is what its there for. aim for something on the upper tier if you can afford it. my sister got married last month and it was a really great time for my family, make sure you enjoy it dude

    they both grew up in kansas but now live in Florida.
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  13. Keyser Galt Keyser Galt is offline

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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 12:11am) in reply to Duffy08

    Card. Envelope. Money.
  14. UCBananaboy UCBananaboy is offline

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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 1:58am) in reply to Keyser Galt

    If it's a friend -- I wouldn't get them a gift.

    A sister? Def would.
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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 6:50am) in reply to UCBananaboy

    cash
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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 7:04am) in reply to hostile



    I purchased one of these for my sister for her wedding present. She just purchased a new house and loved to garden so it was kind of fitting.
     
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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 7:19am) in reply to Drinking Buddy

    I think as the younger brother, you're only expected to get very drunk & moon the rest of the wedding party at the reception. Maybe doing the skin watch & saying "My, my, just look at the time" would be appropriate along with other penis puppetry. Other than that, you really have no other obligations.
  18. UcouldBbettor UcouldBbettor is offline

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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 7:49am) in reply to dodgingjets

    Regardless of what others would think, I would do something similar to the honeymoon idea if I could afford to.
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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 8:11am) in reply to Glo4m

     
    Originally Posted by Glo4m View Post

    Oh, and maybe work on an epic toast!

    No, don't prepare anything. These are always best if you just get really drunk, and tell them how you really feel.
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    Dec 12th, 2010 (12/12/2010 4:04pm) in reply to Scha

     
    Originally Posted by Scha View Post

    No, don't prepare anything. These are always best if you just get really drunk, and tell them how you really feel.

    disagree. i dislike the ones that are completely written down and robotic, but always go in with a gameplan. follow 2 easy rules for success -- poke a lot of fun at the groom, and compliment the hell out of the bride.
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