so i have a bachelor party this weekend.

the original plan was 16 guys goin to ac and staying overnight. 4 to a room cost - $115 / person plus dinner (figure $100/person)

I agreed to this. seems like fun. i was worried about expenses cause this is the 3rd of 5 weddings I will be attending in a 18 month span. shit adds up. bachelor party, engagement gift, wedding gift, etc. i figured though i could swing about $250 but not much more.

i get an email today with this update - four rooms 12 people. 4 people dropped out. now the cost is $155/person for the room. not only that, without telling us he (the best man who i do not know and have never met) gets a table at the pool for $750 + 20% gratuity + $20 per person. that is an additional $110 i did not know i was going to spend just for the pool alone. so now it is an additional $150. i am no baller. i am a catholic school teacher who makes balls. $150 is alot of money for me.

option 1: tell the guy I will give what was originally quoted for the room in may when it was booked ($115) and not go to the pool.
option 2: tell the guy I will not be joining them for the pool (not chip in for it and thus increase everyones share for it (p.s. one of the guys just did that as im writing this so it would actually be a little bit more for me now lol)
option 3: both 1 and 2
option 4: back out completely of the bachelor party
option 5: grin and bear it

wwotd?

Being that 4 people dropped out already what's one more, come up with some bullshit excuse if you have to.

1 or 4

after seeing you other post def 1 or 4

and only 1 if you actually want to go just to have fun, if its just because of some latent collegiate brother thing than just back out call up some of the others that have backed out and ask them if they want to have fun

 

Originally Posted by watson5j

imo it really depends how good of friends you are with the guy...if you dont even know the best man who is prob his best friend then you prob arent great friends but more friends from long ago so I would make something up like one of your priests is on trial for rape and you have to take over the confession booth...

hahaha well played

he was a college roommate that i see maybe once a year. all of the other roommates will be there and none of them are happy about this.
p.s. his best man is his brother who i met once in college 6 years ago.

two of us emailed him about canceling a room. he said they got a special rate ($465 doesn't sound like a special rate) and they need 72 hours to cancel. i thought it was 24 hours.

amslim, ur right. i will have a fun time if i decide to go but my bank acct is like on life support. i have never been a jerk in my life but part of me feels justified in just doing/paying for what was quoted in the booking email.

also interested in what u guys think about the other guys who bailed out. should they have to pay regardless? a similar thing happened at the last bachelor party i went to. when is enough notice to not have to pay anything?

Phil from the hangover is a school teacher also and you see how their bachelor party turned out.

I have a friend who literally and somewhat frequently resorts to eating a loaf of bread for a day or 2 at a time. He also regularly spends $100+ at bars and restaurants. if you have a job and no kids you can always afford it.

this all sounds like a great time and if it's with old college friends I only see once a year there's no way I'm backing out even if it means I have a few tight weeks ahead.

 

Originally Posted by Edub

You aren't going to regret a pool party in las vegas

nice reading comp.

Lol my bad. Wouldn't even go then.

4 or 5 seem like the only real options. with 5 being the best.

i would not go at this point. no telling what more shit he is gonna try to stick you with when you get there.

$465 a room??? where the hell r u staying? change hotels and get a room for 150 or 200 and each person is paying $50 or less imo.. U shouldnt be using the room except for some pre drinking and sleeping, unless u have a private stripper ofc :)

Whoever is putting this together is doing a crappy job. Room prices and reservations and terms should have been discussed beforehand. If someone drops and the room can't be cancelled they still need to pay, unless of course they were not told of the cancellation policy by the guy who set it up. It's bullshit to reserve some pool thing for that much money without talking to the others first. You have no obligation on that. I would not feel bad about dropping out completely or just doing the room and dinner like you originally expected and maybe spring for the additional room cost, but the best man really screwed this up. It's supposed to be a fun time not a stressed out time. Do what you are comfortable with.

Or you could put $400 on black when you arrive and freeroll the weekend.

 

Originally Posted by deemer6

$465 a room??? where the hell r u staying? change hotels and get a room for 150 or 200 and each person is paying $50 or less imo.. U shouldnt be using the room except for some pre drinking and sleeping, unless u have a private stripper ofc :)

we r staying at harrahs ac.

a couple of us emailed him and told him to cancel one room cause we dont need it.
he was adamant that he could not change it because it was a discount room and we got a big discount (this i find hard to believe because i just checked harrahs website and that is the rate given to everyone)

in the midst of the emails one of the guys who i have never met facetiously was saying he wasnt coming cause he didnt wanna spend anytime with the bachelor and took other things we said in the email and spun them to mock us. then he sent the group email a link to priceline.com. kind of a dick move imo. i wanted to send him an asshole test i found online but i dont wanna revert to his level. right now i feel like backing out just to screw them over. very childish on my part. the only thing making me wanna go is for the bachelor.

anyone ever have a similar situation?

 

Originally Posted by Willywoo

Whoever is putting this together is doing a crappy job. Room prices and reservations and terms should have been discussed beforehand. If someone drops and the room can't be cancelled they still need to pay, unless of course they were not told of the cancellation policy by the guy who set it up. It's bullshit to reserve some pool thing for that much money without talking to the others first. You have no obligation on that. I would not feel bad about dropping out completely or just doing the room and dinner like you originally expected and maybe spring for the additional room cost, but the best man really screwed this up. It's supposed to be a fun time not a stressed out time. Do what you are comfortable with.

Or you could put $400 on black when you arrive and freeroll the weekend.

or $400 on 23 and freeroll all of my future wedding obligations lol

agree with Willy.

too many times things like this are so poorly planned and people fail to understand that not everyone is in the same economic range as their friends. if you really want to go i'd pay for the room and dinner but ditch the pool.