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Women...can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em...

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  1. Hughester Hughester is offline

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    Mar 16th, 2011 (3/16/2011 3:07am)

    So friends of my wife and I are getting married in July out of town (no pics, gtfo). She's better friends with the bride than I am with the groom, but the groom and I get along well and have shit in common. He plans a bachelor party in Vegas in May, discuss with the wife, I book it to go, it's all good.

    Then I find out an even better friend of mine is getting married the same day as the first couple. We can't go to his wedding because we've already booked non-refundable flights to the other wedding. I'm pretty bummed about it. But then I find out, the day after booking the flight to Vegas for first groom's bachelor party, the second groom is also having a bachelor party in Vegas in April. At first the wife is all "hells no, you're not going twice." Relay message to my friend, say with me already going in May doesn't make sense, blah blah blah. He's cool about it but I can tell he's bummed.

    I'm at the good friend's stag and doe Friday night and both his fiancee and best man come up and start telling me (separately at different points of the night) how bummed my friend is that I can't join the bachelor party in April. Talking to my wife the next day, I explained how bummed he is, she knows I'm bummed too, and we have a discussion that concludes with her saying if you really want to go, go for it.

    We talk about our budget, can we really afford it (working hard to get out of debt and all that) and we figure we can afford me going to Vegas twice, just means we probably can't take another trip this year (aside from the trip for the first couple's wedding, which is already budgeted for). I debate back and forth about whether or not to go, and all along she keeps saying "I know you really want to go, and I know we can't be at his wedding, so you should go."

    Finally today I call her from work and tell her I'm going to book my flight. On the phone she's like "alright, if that's what you want" and all night I've been getting the cold shoulder.

    Why the fuck do women do this? I hate all this bullshit game playing about "oh you should go" then when I book it "so I guess we're not taking another trip this year, eh" blah blah blah. So fucking frustrating.

    /rant
  2. vewysneeeaky vewysneeeaky is offline

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    Mar 16th, 2011 (3/16/2011 3:12am) in reply to Hughester

    this is OT so i should give a smart ass answer -or comment on the typos in the 1st paragraph instead of a real reason y shes bummed, right?? lol

    shes prolly bummed cuz you're using the days off/$$ on 2 trips out of town (to bachelor partys at that) without her & she's left out & you wont be able to go anywhere with her... prolly isnt going to admit it cuz she doesnt wanna be the that girl... and you didnt think enough of her feelings to think she may want to go somewhere/do something with you..

    suggest you find some "you matter too- quality time" & "thanks for being understanding & giving up our time(and your fun) for me to do what i want even tho you get nothing out of it" to offset the 2 vaca's without her...

    Edit: She didnt tell you no because she wanted you to think about her & chose her over your friends without having to tell you to do it. If she tells you to do it, shes a nag & you dont want to. If you do it on your own then you are thinking about her... i know, girls mind=crazy places
    Edited By: vewysneeeaky Mar 16th, 2011 at 03:26 AM
  3. SpankyHamm SpankyHamm is offline

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    Mar 16th, 2011 (3/16/2011 3:22am) in reply to vewysneeeaky

    Not good friend - bail on Vegas, go to wedding

    Good friend - go to Vegas, bail on wedding.

    Assuming that since you booked the flight to Vegas for May that you can probably just transfer the credits from the cancelled May flight and apply to the April trip. Even if there is a rebooking fee, it will be cheaper than 2 separate trips to Vegas plus you'll score points with your wife.

    Look - you will have a better time with your good friend in Vegas - so make that a blowout. Because if you go to the May Vegas trip, you will be feeling guilty most of the time there and probably not have that good of a time.
     
  4. smheilbron smheilbron is offline

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    Mar 16th, 2011 (3/16/2011 3:22am) in reply to SpankyHamm

    its because theyre a pain in the fuckin ass and need a guys 100% attention or they get jealous.
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