i would 100% allow a face piercing over a tat. she will get tired of it eventually and take it out and the hole will close. tats or mistakes that cant be easily erased.

I would just remind her that a tat will be there forever unless surgically removed so keep it small and tasteful. Piercing is less of a problem b/c it's only a piercing and can be taken out any time. I wouldn't refuse her esp considering she is just shy of 18yrs old. If she was under 16, different story.

id like to say that i would allow either but i dont have kids yet

i personally think that 99.5% of tattoos are horrible looking but i certainly dont think im gonna be the most stern parent in the world... if the kid wants one after theyre 18 thats something they'll have to live with.

 

Originally Posted by saxman

I would just remind her that a tat will be there forever unless surgically removed so keep it small and tasteful. Piercing is less of a problem b/c it's only a piercing and can be taken out any time. I wouldn't refuse her esp considering she is just shy of 18yrs old. If she was under 16, different story.

sax, some of those piercings will look worse when you remove the jewellery. Think about the fools with the discs in their lobes . . . not all piercings are created equal.

And, I do think there is something to the idea of getting one (ink or piercing) leading to more. I have three simple pieces on my shoulder. Doubt I will get more, but I do think about it fairly regularly. Used to wear a stud in my ear until EVERYONE started doing the same thing. That is another angle of attack as well. If she wants this out of some sense of uniqueness, just point out how common and faddish they seem to be. "Your accountant has one? Okay, forget it."

It wont stop there either, nobody gets one septum ring and just stops. She will end up being one of those human salamander types with the forked tounges and a pound of cheap silver in her face.

 

Originally Posted by SmokeyCasinos

Get photo of her > get various looking tats , jewelry and such >photoshop them on the photo and have her show her freinds so they can tell her how dumb she would look...

Mine has tats all over her sholders so what do I know , no pics gfy lol

A Mexican with tats. Surprise, surprise

 

Originally Posted by Cmoney3

think about the repercussions from his daughter. she will hate him and be buckwild and do everything in her power to piss him off OR he agrees to a piercing which isnt absurd(dont agree to a tat) and she is an obedient daughter w a "cool" Dad who respects her enough to let her do something which isnt causing any harm to herself or anyone else.

Kids do NOT need their parents to be their friends, or to be "cool". Kids need their parents to DO THEIR FUCKING JOB. Namely, look after their best interests, whether the kids know it or not. My Dad used to piss me off when I was a teen, because half my pay-cheque HAD to go into my savings account and STAY there. That was MY MONEY, DAMMIT. But what that did is instill in me the need to have money set aside, and to live within my means. Still a struggle at times, but it was a vaulable lesson, and I thank God he did it.

If the OP's daughter is as smart as she seems, I doubt she turns into a hellion over this issue. She may get something done when she turns 18, but then it is her choice, and her responsibility.

What is the big deal? A septum piercing can easily be hidden by flipping the jewelry up inside the nose.

I like tattoos (4) and piercings (Prince Albert and 00 scrotal).

no chance a 16-18 year old is smart/mature enough to pick a tattoo that they 1000000% will want the rest of their lives. shit is so tilting, i can't believe parents let their kids get tattoos that young.

ps: if you or someone you know got a tattoo that young and it still does it for you, you got lucky imo.

When I asked my dad if I could get an earing he said "if you want to look like a fag". you probably want to steer away from being that hateful.

Piercing yes (septum, ear, eyebrow, tounge) I'll draw the line at anything >8 gauge though. Tats, no way. BTW I'm not against the look of it, I'm against the permanent damage being done and my child not being old enough to make a sound decision..

 

Originally Posted by P0KERDUUDE

like this?

Homeboy better bring a gun or a knife to a fight.

Can just imagine hooking my fingers and pulling my hardest. Bet he wouldn't have his tough guy face on then.

 

Originally Posted by Milo

Kids do NOT need their parents to be their friends, or to be "cool". Kids need their parents to DO THEIR FUCKING JOB. Namely, look after their best interests, whether the kids know it or not. My Dad used to piss me off when I was a teen, because half my pay-cheque HAD to go into my savings account and STAY there. That was MY MONEY, DAMMIT. But what that did is instill in me the need to have money set aside, and to live within my means. Still a struggle at times, but it was a vaulable lesson, and I thank God he did it.

If the OP's daughter is as smart as she seems, I doubt she turns into a hellion over this issue. She may get something done when she turns 18, but then it is her choice, and her responsibility.

I agree. I feel like most of the time the kid just feels stupid a year later anyway. The kids that end up with all the tattoos and piercings because their parents are "cool" are the same kids who never had any discipline and end up fucking up their lives. Not saying there aren't exceptions of course.

pluv spoke like 24 posts ago why the fuck is this thread still going?

 

Originally Posted by Milo

Kids do NOT need their parents to be their friends, or to be "cool". Kids need their parents to DO THEIR FUCKING JOB. Namely, look after their best interests, whether the kids know it or not. My Dad used to piss me off when I was a teen, because half my pay-cheque HAD to go into my savings account and STAY there. That was MY MONEY, DAMMIT. But what that did is instill in me the need to have money set aside, and to live within my means. Still a struggle at times, but it was a vaulable lesson, and I thank God he did it.

If the OP's daughter is as smart as she seems, I doubt she turns into a hellion over this issue. She may get something done when she turns 18, but then it is her choice, and her responsibility.

teaching you to save money is fine. what is he teaching her by saying no to a small face piercing? A relationship with your kid doesnt have to be prisoner and prison guard. you can have an open loing relationship with your kid if you go about it the right way. earn their respect and trust and they will be open with you. piss them off and make them think you are a prick for no reason and they will make your life hell. I have raised 4 kids, and all have college degrees, are married and make good money. two own houses and i jsut became a grandfather a few months ago. You would be surprised what having a loving relationship with your kids will do for them.

Well, I guess I have a few points with regards to this. My parents had the view of "I don't condone it but when you're 18, it's your body and your choice." I've ended up half covered in tattoos and my parents are actually fans of them now and love the art. My sister is now apprenticing to be a tattoo artist and my father tells people, "if you asked me what I never expected to hear myself say when my son was born, I really like your new tattoo would of been at the top of the list." At the same time I got my tongue pierced a week before I graduated high school and my mom flipped her shit at the time. Kept screaming about how it couldn't have been real and what the fuck was wrong with me. She eventually came around on the tattoo thing as well. Honestly, once she's 18 she'll do whatever she wants, so the more you fight it the more she'll probably want it just to rebel. I don't suggest letting her do it, but just ignore it and say "when you're 18, do whatever you want." There's no reason to be the "cool" dad that lets her do whatever she wants, but no reason not to be the "reasonable dad" or shit, just "logical dad" that knows it's out of your hands at some point so might as well tell her what you think and that she can make her own decision when she's old enough.