I don't blame him.....to him it sounds like you were bragging about winning all this money while sitting on your butt on the comp. buy him a pony imo

If I was him I'd probly despise u too. Especially having to hear about it.

Just do your thing but keep it to yourself, and help your sister and family out however you can. But def don't be all celebrating in front of him talking about big scores etc.

Chances are he'll come around eventually. Just keep it on the low, and share the wealth.

I would not go as far as bragging. I will say this though, it may help you, I have just learned this from past experiences and my father. "Credit will be given when credit is due". If you have to beg and plead for credit then it must not be that important to the person you are talking to, so don't waste your breathe. If they feel you have accomplished something they will tell you.

I will say this, Bravo on the 17k. I am deeply jealous, lol! I would love a cash like that. It would really help out with my school finances, if ya know what I mean.

I will ask this though, does your brother-in-law have a degree? Does he have a craft? or does he have some job that he managed to scrap up since high school and just keeps it b/c he puts in the hours to keep his job? Me personally, I hate ppl that whine and complain about other ppl's success. DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT! Get a craft, a skill, a degree and be the master of what you are doing. Ppl say all the time, I can not afford to go to college, well with your current finances you probably dont. However I don't either, I am just driving myself into students loans and getting money through co-oping so I can get my degree and get a good job, so I can eventually pay off those loans and live a well off life.

He may envy what you have and is just afraid to admit it. Just be hush hush I say and find another common interest with the ppl you are living with.

Hes definitely annoyed with you and bitter about it. Its not your fault he has to work all those hours and probably hates his life. Fuck it, contribute like you have been and keep doing your thing. Id just make it a point not to talk about it in front of him and if it becomes more of a problem, move out

i wouldnt let it bother you he obv hates his life and his shit job but you lay in the bed you make, u obv would be happy for him if he was making good money not ur fault u rape heaps

I will say this as well...To add to my previous post. Be grateful that you have the time to play all day and also be grateful that you have the bankroll to play in the large game. Lets also throw in be grateful you have shipped one of those bad boys and be grateful you got the skills to be bad ass.

You gotta weigh out the pros and cons b/c from where I am standing. I would like to be in your shoes (Big cashes, big bankroll, making a living off poker). Just deal with the guy and move on. And if ya got time, teach my thing or too about playing lol.

 

Originally Posted by jtown1010

WTF you can get past him railing your sister but he can't get over you making more/easier money than him?

Fuck him, he sounds like a mega-hater.

Yeah this is another thing that has to go into effect. He is getting laid, by your sister no-less(sorry to put it bluntly), and he is bitching???? Yeah, this guy should count his blessings as well.

Just saw ur profile.. Use some of that 17K and get an apt imo. Didn't know u were 35, man get the hell out!

 

Originally Posted by Blu SeVenZ

Just saw ur profile.. Use some of that 17K and get an apt imo. Didn't know u were 35, man get the hell out!

my point exactly, but keep deluding yourself that he hates you because of the poker

 

Originally Posted by Luna The Dog

Can't believe all the replies. The funny thing is i forgot it said im 35 in my profile. I was leaving that out on purpose!! I keep to myself. I am not ever bragging. Believe me i have downswings where i want to throw my computer out the window. For now on if i have any big cashes i will keep it to myself (unless its the Sunday MIllion!!).. but i need to somehow just find a way to cash in that..

I know I sound pitiful and like a jackass but hell man, atleast you get to play in the sunday million...lmao

 

Originally Posted by Luna The Dog

My parents built an inlaw house attached to my sister/brother inlaws place.

I bet your brother-in-law was thrilled about this!

 

Originally Posted by Luna The Dog

He absolutely despises that Im in here <STRIKE>playing poker all day</STRIKE>.

The poker isnt what bothers him. However the fact that his wifes 35 year old brother lives in his backyard might have something to do with it.

 

Originally Posted by Luna The Dog

Time to move?

ummm, yea. Like right now. Dont even respond, just pack your bags and MOVE. You're 35 years old man, have some pride and gtfo.

 

Originally Posted by Quartersack

ummm, yea. Like right now. Dont even respond, just pack your bags and MOVE. You're 35 years old man, have some pride and gtfo.

Do i packup my monitors and bring the beer with me too?

 

Originally Posted by Polar_Bears

Teach him how to play...let the claws of poker slowly dig themselves into his chest and rip him open like it has so many of us...that will teach him a lesson....then once he is totally hooked, cut him off and let him figure it out for himself....ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh sweet revenge!

lmao this

 

Originally Posted by Luna The Dog

Do i packup my monitors and bring the beer with me too?

The monitors are your choice but dont dare leave the beer. Actually, stop packing and drink the beer now.

To those that think its unreasonable for someone (regardless of age really) to live with their parents / family, please STFU. In many parts of the world, this is the standard and in this new economic reality we live in , this is going to become much more frequent in north america as well. Not everyone hates their family, some people actually like their family and enjoy their company... if on top of that it makes financial sense for everyone involved why wouldnt they stay together? Seriously, get with the times people.

As for your situation OP, I would not move because of HIM. It sounds like you might want to move though, regardless of the inlaw, in which case these 2 wins would be a great reason/catalyst to get things rolling (if you were short on $ before).

As for how to deal with the inlaw, this is what i would do:

I would sit him down once and have a talk with him about what playing poker for a living really is. After that, you tell him that he will never again hear about your poker (ESPECIALLY IF YOU WIN THE MILLION :P ).

When you talk to him, highlight the negatives of poker that people dont think about when they hear that someone is pro.

- explain to him all the hard work that goes into poker : training sites/videos, poker books, studying hands, ppoker tracker, pokerstove, OPR, forums,

- tell him on the day when everyone is hanging out with friends and family, doing sports and other leisurely activites, you dont exist to the outside world (sundays obv)

-talk about when times were hard for you, talk to him about some really rough downswings and the fears you had at that time,

- tell him that you eyes are going bad from starring at computesr all day, or that your back is sore, etc (maybe not be overall body fatigue like him, but there are still downsides)

- if you dont have a family of your own, tell him you envy him for the wife and kids that he has, tell him about aspects of life that you might have had to sacrifice in order to play poker

-tell him about friends that you lost because they resented you abuot it, tell him you dont want to lose him like you lost them (even if this isnt true, i think it might be a good approach to take)

- tell him you feel bad for not contributing to society and taking the easy way out, tell him you admire his courage for working hard and supporting his family.

- explain to him that although he hears about the days where you win big, he NEVER hears about the days where you lose, and that some days it can be up to 1000$(or whatever that number is for you on sundays)

Then, after you said all that to him, never ever talk about poker around him again. That might have to imply not inviting your sister over when you are about to have the biggest win of your life... yah that sucks, but overall might be the most +EV play to make. Brag to your poker friends and on Pocketfives, not to your family/friends. Keep helping with the kids, bills, etc and if he still is a jerk to you about, well, so be it. Thats one of the prices to pay to be a poker pro.