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I'm OK. You're OK.

By grapsfan | Published Nov 18 2008, 06:08 AM

I have one of the heavier Full Tilt Poker jackets, picked up on a whim when I didn’t know what to do with FPPs.  The jacket is perfect for fall weather in Minnesota.  I was wearing it the other day when I did some shopping at my local Costco.  The young man taking care of me at the checkout register was 19 or 20, and stared at my jacket while I was paying for my order.  The following conversation took place while my debit card information was going through:

Cashier: “Full Tilt Poker?  Do you work there?”
Me: (laughing) “No.  Just play cards.”
Cashier: “For money?”
Me: “Usually, yeah.”
Cashier: “I have about a million play money points on PokerStars.”
Me: “That’s pretty good.”
Cashier: “I’d never play for real money online, though.  How do you know it’s safe?”
Me: “Well, I’ve been playing for a few years, and never had a problem getting money out when I wanted.”
Cashier: “I go play at the casino all the time, though.  I win at least $100 every time I go there.”
Me: “Wow.  That’s really good.”
Cashier: “See, I have this system where when I win $150, I leave.  Sometimes I don’t get that much.  But I always come close.”
Me: (grabbing my cart) “Well, good luck.”

Every one of us hears stories like this on a regular basis when talking poker with a relative stranger, a never-ending game of “anything you can do, I can do better.”  Never mind that if the kid could actually make twice as much playing poker than grinding it out at Costco, he probably would.  The poker truth is obvious to anyone who has spent substantial time at the tables.

Truth #1: Anyone good enough to win every time is good enough to know not to set an artificial win limit in such an easily beatable game.,

Truth #2: No game is so easily beatable as to win every time.  Rake in the lower-stakes games is very tough to overcome, and sometimes you run bad, regardless of how skilled you are.


So, what’s the big deal?  If someone wants to lie about how good they are at poker, who cares?

One of the keys to success at the table is honesty – how much do you know, and how wise are the decisions you make?  There’s no room for deception.  If you repeat a lie often enough, it tends to become your truth.  If you think you’re better and more successful than you are, it leads to all kinds of temptations and bad habits.  You may underestimate your opponents and play overly reckless.  You may think you can always find a better spot to put your money in, and pass up mathematically correct opportunities.  Or you may just play way too high for your roll and put yourself in serious jeopardy of going broke.

There’s no shame in admitting your place in the poker universe.  We can aspire to greatness, reaching for the sky…while keeping our feet planted firmly in reality.  If you’re willing to take comfort from whatever grind you may be in, you will be better for it in the long run.  Ego is a far more dangerous threat to your money than any opponent across the table.

I see a multitude of very talented players every day, much better than I am now, or may ever be.  There’s no reason for them to be losing players, but they are, primarily because they put themselves in spots where it’s very difficult to win.  Since they aren’t honest with themselves about who they are, they don’t end up in the right place at the right time.  In Rounders-speak, they’ve got way too much Mike McD, and not enough Knish.

Am I advocating being a bankroll nit, never taking shots to win big, never challenging yourself to play uphill against players who are better and/or more experienced than you?  On the contrary; there’s no way to know what’s over the next hill on your poker journey unless you climb out of your comfort zone.  But the path to your destination is safer and shorter if have a good read on where you’re starting.

Be it high-stakes cash, medium buy-in MTTs, the 180-man grind or freerolls; everything’s good.  It’s OK to be who you are. 





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Comments
 

snakee said:

good article, thanks for this

November 18, 2008 7:55 AM
 

LordPye said:

Good article Graps.

Hubris.  I think it's the last serious hurdle that needs to be overcome to turn a decent player into a consistently successful player.  For those on the cusp it's hard to recognize that variance IS a part of poker and you WILL have losing sessions.  All too often we are seduced by trying to make that impossible comeback.  Sometimes ya just gotta eat the medicine

November 18, 2008 8:03 AM
 

jasonpariah said:

Great read as allways

November 18, 2008 8:15 AM
 

lordxixor101 said:

At times, I think it's too bad that Graps doesn't just keel over and die.......well, maybe I better explain that line  :)

Graps just continuously writes articles that, on the surface give a good message, and really, everytime you read it, you can take away something else from it.  Yet, because he isn't ranked #1 on the leaderboard (or hasn't taken down a title on tv), people blow off much of the wisdom.

Yet, if he died, and we didn't have great grapsfan articles for a year, people would go back, read these, and see the genius in them for what it is.  

Graps, your the one writer who posts now that I make sure I read.  Always enlightening and always thought provoking.  I can think of no higher compliment than this.

If I had a friend tell me they wanted to play online, and asked me one thing they could do to improve their game, I'd say to read your articles.  Sure, most of them won't tell him when to fold versus play a K10 suited, but the articles really hit on how poker and life entertwine, and in many ways, that's far more important.

November 18, 2008 8:41 AM
 

shawno said:

Very good article. Now if you could only figure out how to get people not to tell bad beat stories graps

November 18, 2008 8:55 AM
 

StackMe0ff said:

Who am i??

November 18, 2008 8:59 AM
 

tmleafs1967 said:

Funny timing on this article Graps, great article BTW.

A couple friends of mine I got into online poker that play our biweekly home games, I showed them how to get online and how to use instadebit but thats about it.

Alot of times one or both of these guys are saying how they won this or that and placed in this or that tourney.

I never showed them p5's or OPR or anything so I check on them here and there to see how they are doing and not very often are they being truthful as I play a ton and watch and read just as much to try and improve my game.

It's like you said I guess everyone wants to better but do not put the work in to do so.

anyways, i feel bad for them as I would like to intro them to pocketfives and opr/sharkscope etc but I know they will feel so stupid when they figgure out I know they are not telling the truth.

November 18, 2008 9:01 AM
 

stayhighlowe said:

nice read..but why are u always talking shit the the bad player at the small buy in mtt on stars.......

November 18, 2008 9:25 AM
 

lordxixor101 said:

TM,

Don't worry, they will just claim that sharkscope isn't picking up all of their scores (or attributing more losses to them than is real) and they'll go on.

They may even believe it enough that they fail to use sharkscope for what it would be.

November 18, 2008 9:35 AM
 

Mr_BigQueso said:

wtf, he didn't even list my name in the story.

jackass.

November 18, 2008 9:52 AM
 

mcc3504 said:

awesome article

November 18, 2008 10:24 AM
 

scf187 said:

Good article. This dude is smart.  

November 18, 2008 10:24 AM
 

aj_law said:

Nice hidden brag about having a Costco membership.

Gold Star Member or Executive Member?  I'd bet the latter.

November 18, 2008 10:46 AM
 

Mr_BigQueso said:

i raise you three hammers

November 18, 2008 10:49 AM
 

MeJahAndOmaha said:

my personal fav of your long list of solid articles graps. very well said.

November 18, 2008 11:00 AM
 

yay415area said:

Damn, give the guy a break. I can see where someone may see themselves winning $100 almost everytime. When I first began playing in casino underage I would play 2-3 nl, and I went on streaks of winning 10-15 sessions in a row multiple times. So it is not that unheard of. Perhaps he has only played 20 times and won 18 of them. Very possible, especially at 2-3 where it is like printing money. Bad read imo.

November 18, 2008 12:41 PM
 

skeptix said:

First comment for awesome article.  Very insightful and compelling.

November 18, 2008 12:52 PM
 

grapsfan said:

yay415, in Minnesota the casinos are only allowed to spread limit & spread games with a maximum of $60.  The vast majority of the games running at any one time are $2/$4 and $3/$6 limit, with a $5 rake per hand.  Even though most of the players are lousy, the rake is stiff enough that nobody's winning every time.

Yes, AJ, I have an Executive Membership.  We buy almost everything there, including electronics & printer cartridges and what-not.  I'm typically getting about $100 above and beyond the membership cost.

stayhighlow, "always" is probably a little much.  Most of the time, I try not to say anything.  But I have been known to tilt from time to time.  If I said anything to you that you took offense to, I'm very sorry.

Thanks for reading, everyone.

November 18, 2008 12:52 PM
 

Asiandude7 said:

very good read

November 18, 2008 12:56 PM
 

Leroy Wong said:

good article bro

November 18, 2008 12:57 PM
 

ace1won said:

Sick brag about having a ftp  jacket..dont lie youve been saving points for a year and just got it last week

November 18, 2008 1:03 PM
 

racer said:

good article graps, really puts into perspective why myself and many others grind it out at the low stakes, particularly after starting out really well, or after a solid win, doesnt mean your going pro.  Its about knowing yourself as a person or a player and being true to yourself and r-e-s-p-e-c-t for the games ups and downs.

November 18, 2008 1:06 PM
 

FlyinHawaiin said:

I'm a fanatic, your articles are fantastic...

or at least pretty good.

aloha

November 18, 2008 1:54 PM
 

virgo005 said:

nice/funny article

November 18, 2008 4:13 PM
 

kamikazzee63 said:

I didnt know you lived in Rosemount. I live in Cottage Grove. We are practiclly neighbors, lol. I had a similar Conversaton last week w/ someone. They asked if I had any hobbies, and I said Poker, internet mostly, and the same conversation followed....

November 18, 2008 5:39 PM
 

relderretep said:

good article

November 18, 2008 6:31 PM
 

Tim Lock said:

Years later, a doctor will tell me that I have an I.Q. of 48 and am what some people call mentally retarded.

November 18, 2008 7:47 PM
 

LookingFLuck said:

Great article as always!

November 18, 2008 9:23 PM
 

the_bish said:

great article, always amazed with your perspective

November 19, 2008 9:05 AM
 

conan99 said:

my comment was " yawner" it was erased...why bc im not swinging off of graps nuts????? seriously hes a good writer but why erase a comment bc youre a puss seriously get over yourself.......

November 28, 2008 9:13 AM
 

FlyingSumo said:

Reading your articles always helps when I am in a place where I dont want to be in poker. Your articles have helped me become a more successful pokerplayer, thanks :)

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