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i was thinking about this the other day as i had a talk about getting married. My family is Catholic and I was raised to ask a father's permission before you ask his daughter to marry you.
Is this still the norm or am I out of the loop on this? I wouldn't want her to know obv that I asked so any suggestions from people that have done this and/or are going to be doing this. Also is it standard with other faiths or doesn't it matter. she's protestant but non practicing..
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DJam21
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11-16-2009 8:16 PM
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 DJam21: | |
If he says no will you split up?
This was a cereal question btw, for everyone. What's the protocol if the dad tells you to take a running jump?
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| DJam21: | |
What's the protocol if the dad tells you to take a running jump?
Is there a legit reason why he woud say no? If yes, then you have a bigger issue. If no, then you need to find out why and talk it over with the g/f. If you are marrying into a family and you are not welcome, you better hope you have a hella strong relationship. Marriage is tough enough without the in-law dramas.
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If you ask the father and he says no there is probably good reason for it, imo.
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definitely not mandatory, but still a nice sign of respect, and if you have a good relationship with him, then i think you should ask.
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I asked my father-in-law for his blessing. He said no. should have taked the old man's advice.
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My wife's dad was kinda shitty when I asked him.
We've been married for 17 years.
I haven't spoken to him since.
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| normlfella: | |
all religious affiliation aside, I think its totally standard to ask the old man first
Absolutely for sure. I have been engaged once and did this and absolutely will do it on the next gal.
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was it an awkward wedding ????
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Both my sons-in laws came to my wife and I and said they wanted to marry my daughters, and asked for our blessing, not our permission. Fortunately I like both of them and we were happy for them all.
If I had disapproved I would have said I can't agree to that, but I realize my girls might have gotten married anyway. Young people make their own decisions, parents can give advice, but not run their lives.
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DJam21
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11-16-2009 8:49 PM
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| cowboy301: | |
...asked for our blessing, not our permission.
QF Me Likey
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| DJam21: | |
| cowboy301: | |
...asked for our blessing, not our permission.
QF Me Likey
100% - cowboy said it a lot better than i did
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im about to propose and i'm talking with her dad soon. i see no reason not to, its the ultimate get off on the right foot kinda thing
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ask during thanksgiving dinner while the bitches are in the kitchen of course.
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What are you going to do if he says no?
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