Full Disclosure... I went through a messy divorce this past year, lost my father and grandfather all in the same time period. My bankroll suffered indirectly. My play wasn't up to par , mixed with a downswing , and playing above my bankroll just lead to disastrous results. Now I could sit around and say boo hoo look at me , But I grinded through and came out stronger because of it. I made adjustments in my life and got focused. I feel better and got out of a toxic situation. My health is better, I eat better and I have more fun. When it came to poker, I used discipline and sought new motivation for my game. My game was more self centered before but now I realize that long term, I am doing this for my 2 little boys. I plan to pay my mortgage, so they will always have a home , and pay for their college or trades in life one day through these earnings. My career is still a priority, but in today's world one salary is not enough and poker is my supplemental career. When I talk about my kids , poker and work, people always say... "I don't know how you do it". The answer is simple though. It's about discipline. Having kids, while pursuing a dream is a hard endeavor. Below I listed some tips on how to succeed in the Dad/ Poker world. ( This goes for Moms as well)
1.) Kids come first - this needs to be number one. You need to put your kids first. This means attending their soccer practices, back to school nights , birthday parties etc. We only have so much time in our lives and we need to help these little guys/gals out. If your putting a card game ahead of your kids schedule then its never going to work. And before you say " well I need to make this money to help them" ... Watch the Eric Seidel pokerography. His kids are interviewed and say he never missed a high school sports game a day in their lives. Eric is one of the top players in the world and he can do it.
2.) Eat Better / Exercise More - If you are like me, and your work full time, and play almost full time , then your health is going to take a toll. Kids in general will make you sleep less. I have found though by eating better and making exercise a part of your daily routine , I have more energy and can sleep less and still feel more energetic. This is a huge challenge for a lot of people. My recommendation is making prop bets to get started ( I currently have a bounty on my head, if people catch me eating certain carb foods on certain days I have to pay them cash ) Money motivates us and this helps. On days I can't go to the gym , I run around the back yard with my kids, play soccer with them, jump on the trampoline or work out in my basement. Involve your kids in your exercise and you accomplish 2 things in once. Family time and Exercise.
3.) Wait til the kids are asleep... this is huge. Trying to play while your kids are running around , screaming , breaking stuff or making a mess is going to be a disaster. I do not start playing at night until my kids go to bed. It allows me to focus more and actually unwind for the day. Trying to watch your kids and play just doesn't work. Make a set bed time every night and stick to it.
4.)Time management .. laying clothes out, pre packing ... Creating time to play is a must. This means when the kids are coloring, doing homework or watching TV, I am making lunches , laying out clothes for the next day, checking book bags etc. By pre planning and getting things set up for the rest of the week , you will create more time to play . So when you start playing online , you don't have to worry about something you forgot to do for their school the next day. Create more time by becoming more organized.
5.) Naps ... This is the ultimate secret. When my kids nap, I nap. A good 25 min power nap will do wonders for your health and well being. There is a lot of good studies out there that say the same thing. Learn to squeeze in a good nap. Put down your phone, turn off the TV and just learn to nap or relax. Sometimes I will get 2 - 15- 20 min naps in a day and pays off wonderfully when putting in some late nights on the felt.
Dad life is hard. Work Harder!